i’m 27 and pregnant with my 2nd the father of both kids dosn’t want anything to do with this baby wants me to abort or loose it (he’s a good dad to our first ) i don’t now were this is come from but hve been told if i keep the baby then he will leave and nether kids will know him or i can move away and he will still help with our first . i cant have abortion and don’t want eather to lose their dads plz and advice or help plz need an outsiders perspective i just don’t understand :(

Posted by becnpaige1186, 25th September 2013

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  • Definitely hang onto your baby! Hubby is being unreasonable. Hopefully he’s in shock or something and will calm down, change his mind by the time bub number 2 arrives. You say he’s a good dad to first child, surely he’s not thinking right telling you to get rid of number 2 or get out of his life. Sending positive thoughts and vibes your way, hoping things turn around


  • For just what you said I think you’d probably be better off without him.


  • Couls you contact your parent for assistance? It is entirely unfair for him to make such comment considering that he was responsible for the second child himself (I bet you he wasn’t thinking negatively back then).


  • Just make sure you don’t do anything you may regret later down the track. Maybe speak to a counsellor who is trained in these types of issues.


  • thats hard i have know idea you do what you think is right.


  • well i was only 21 and pregnant with my 2 child to a different dad and he wanted me to get a termination as we had just broken up so anyways i just told him that i dont need him n neither does my baby well he didnt even see the baby till he was 2 n a half and that was by accident when he walked past him at the shopping centre n he came n pinch my sons cheek and kept walking n i thought what a hid has he got n then he didnt really have anything to do with him till he was about 7 and my son hated oing to is place on weekends and now my son is 14 n my son has chosen not to have any contact with his dad n thats his choice so your chldren will be ok raised by just ne parent


  • you need to do what is right for you and what you can live with because living with guilt can destroy you. Personally if it was me I would have the baby and if he left or wanted nothing to do with the new child that is his lost if it is a case he thinks it’s not his DNA test. If he leaves just remember your children are a gift and one to be cherished keep in mind some people do not get this gift for example my daughter has to go through IVF and has had a perfect little boy stillborn and than early labor a little girl so she has had to lay to rest 2 children. I do find it strange he is a good Dad to the first child…….I have been married almost 29years and my Husband know my children and Grandchildren comes before him and always will. I hope you can decide and find some peace as this is not the time you should be stressing


  • I would speak to a counsellor about this. I feel for you but am not sure where he would be coming from.aubr he thinks the 2nd one is not his (that’s hubby’s option)

    I would talk to him and also a counsellor don’t get bullied into anything you don’t want to do


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