I thought returning to work would be an absolute breeze. I was looking forward to the adult interaction and returning to my job that I love. I didn’t realise that this would actually affect me so much as it has. I only returned to work two days a week and am very grateful my work allowed me to do this. But my position is all over the place and is so unsettling. It’s hard to feel a sense of belonging anymore. On top of this I was feeling so guilty for leaving my little one. I know she is fine and she loves daycare i think I would feel less guilty if I was happier at work. It has been a struggle but I finally come to a place where I have accepted that my position is what it is and I just have to make the best of it. I am working on feeling less guilty when I leave my daughter not just at daycare. I am wondering if anyone else feels guilty for leaving their child and what you do to help deal with it.

Posted anonymously, 21st June 2015

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  • Over time it will get better.
    Just remember your doing it to benefit the both of you :)


  • i know, you work, you feel guilt, don’t work and you feel guilt. you have the best of both world so look at it like this. you work and get to mostly stay home with bub! you are working for her benefit. Try to cheer up! Give big hugs to your bub.


  • I believe this is a common feeling amongst parents having to return to work and leave their child or children in the care of others. I guess the main thing is that your child is happy where they are, it makes a huge difference when you know they are safe and sound when they are out of your care. Hope the environment that you find yourself in at work improves, it’s definitely a struggle to get through a work day when you are not enjoying the work or the environment.


  • it will get better… and if your daughter is enjoying day care that’s a positive.
    “guilt is to the spirit what pain is to the body”

    • I like this motto and it is very true-thank you for sharing with Moms’.


  • It does get better as you sort out routines, see how your child benefits from daycare, and settle back into work.


  • I think this is so very common. I think with time you will feel more settled.


  • Please find some consolation in the fact that this is quite a normal feeling. It can take a long time to make the transition. Be kind to yourself and do not do guilt!


  • Hugs to you. The guilt will pass and remember your daughter loves daycare


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