MoM’s.. help!
I know it’s wrong, I know I shouldn’t… but I think I am falling in love with my best friend! She is like a carbon copy of me, we are almost the same person. I think my feelings are only because we are so alike and we are always there for each other, I have never loved another woman before.. I guess no one can really help me on here, I just needed to get it out, to make myself realise it’s foolish

Posted anonymously, 30th June 2015

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  • Loving your friends is not wrong but are you sure that its romantic love. I would reflect closely on this and other relationships prior to taking any action.


  • Did this post make you realise how foolish you are? Or have you realised you really do gave feelings for your best friend? I have to wonder which way it went


  • It’s ok to love your friend. Are you sure it’s in a romantic way though. If it is, you can’t help that. Try and sort out your feelings to see what it really is you are feeling


  • i had a relationship kind of like this. Not romantic- hold me in your arms- type of love but we vibed in a really great way and had a great bond just like sisters. Very close. It is such a shame that i moved away and other friends have stepped in to fill my shoes as i can’t physically be there. I think that you just get along so well and she obviously makes you really happy. You are lucky! Even if you decided that you wanted something more, i don’t think that you should be ashamed of your feelings.


  • Women can form very close and loving relationships without it being a ‘relationship’. Reflect on your own feelings as it may help.


  • It’s not wrong to love your friend, but if you think it’s romantic, you need to sort yourself out before you even consider approaching her.


  • there is nothing wrong for caring so much about a friend, as you said you are so alike and are there to support each other no matter what. Not everyone is so lucky to have that strong friendship. Just think about it seriuosly before you act on it, Is it possible you have been through a hard time lately and without her support you would of been totally lost?.


  • I think you can love a friend. They are not romantic feelings, but love more like a friend.


  • There are all sorts of additional names tagged onto Love and I can admit I’m a little loathe to use them because at the end of the day Love is just that LOVE. I would hazard a guess that what you feel for your friend is a combination of platonic and unconditional Love? There is nothing wrong with that, doesn’t mean you have sexualised or intimate feelings towards her. Even if you did have those it’s a personal choice for yourself only if you chose to act on them. You’d have to be aware that they might not hold the same views, feelings etc and you would also have to respect that.
    Being in Love with someone does not always equate with having to ‘be’ with them. I hope you continue to have a great friendship with them and that maybe it’s time to have a frank discussion with them or yourself as to what it is you are feeling for them.
    Hope I haven’t been confusing in trying to express what I mean. I am happily married and love my husband as I always have though that does not stop me from feeling love towards others.

    • I couldn’t have said it better myself!


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