I wrote about my family having a run of illness a month or so ago & while my elderly Mum & MIL have improved, my SIL is still gravely ill. While we try to be supportive & there for her, the treatment keeping her alive is attacking her immune system & she has to keep her distance because the risk of germs. The saddest part is not been able to give her a hug when she really needs one. I try to give her updates of the family & things that may interest her but it is so very hard assuring her she will get better because we don’t know if a bone marrow transplant will help.

Posted by ashblonde, 4th June 2016

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  • That’s a lot to be dealing with keep doing your best. Maybe plant some flowers outside a window, something natural and pretty to look at. It a tough time and sometimes hard to know what to do or say.

    • Thanks for the suggestion Wendy. We called into see her today & she does need some cheering up as the sad subject of funeral services was arranged.

      • Thanks for the suggestion Wendy. She does need something cheerful as we called in to see her today & the Funeral plans needed to be discussed with us.


  • It sounds like you’re all going through a really tough time. Remember to be kind and gentle to yourself. Perhaps do some google research and see if there are other things you can do to help your SIL or comfort her and yourself. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

    • Thanks 19782016, It’s something I did all the time, to Google information & treatments but my SIL’s oncologist & specialist’s recommend we don’t. It is best for her to be told by these professionals what treatment she can or cannot have at this stage. We both have beautiful grandkids that we can often chat about together but sadly she is tiring easily & not able to cope with them around as much.


  • Thankyou for sharing your story. It is incredibly hard when life throws us these challenges. May there be light at the end of the tunnel whatever decisions are made. You are strong.

    • Thanks Lori-Anne, I try to be strong around her but I feel so helpless knowing her life may end too soon.


  • Wishing Her and your family all the best at this time and hoping her treatment helps get her back on her feet. You are doing all you can to let her know she is loved.. She knows it….

    • Thank you Mum 56312, I hope she does know how much I care. I try to chat regularly on the phone when I can’t see her & try to be a good listener but I find it hard when she is having a bad day.


  • Thank you ladies for your thoughts, my biggest wish is that she can get through this battle & enjoy her life. She is a Wife, a Mum, a Sister & a wonderful Nanna & deserves to be able to be around for many more years.


  • That’s heartbreaking, I hope there is some help for her soon


  • What a horrible time for you all, a card or note to tell her how much she means to you all can be just as good as a hug.


  • Sometimes she probably needs someone who’ll acknowledge that it’s horrible.


  • I can imagine how difficult it must be to remain positive in these unsettling times. You are doing very well keeping her updated. I’m sure she enjoys that. It’s a pity for the hugs you can’t give her, but it’s for a good reason. Hopefully things will turn out well for your sister.


  • I have experienced something similar and it is tough on everyone. Wishing you all well and sending good wishes.


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