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I am a Mom of two teenage daughters & I am so worried but angry. I am a very understanding Mom and I think I am fair with my girls but if asked or told to do something & they don’t like it or won’t do it it erks me that instead of facing responsiblities they always threaten with self harm.. now I have had a nephew who commited suicide so Iam frightened that they will do something silly so I always give in. How can you tell if its for attention or real?


Posted anonymously, 26th March 2014


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  • i would definitely speak to a professional about this situation,even a family psychologist where you can go with your girls and discuss this you might be able to find out why they do this.

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  • omg I can only imagine the horror it must bring, I wish you all the best

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  • I would get a referral from your GP for a psychologist. It could be that they are just manipulating you and that is unacceptable. If their threats are real then they need to be dealt with. Dealing with the problem with your doctor, I would have the there at the appointment to explain why they say such things could be enough to sort it out. Good luck.

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  • Threatening self harm is unfair behaviour. I would definitely seek the help of a professional in trying to communicate with your daughters the brevity of those threats. Once they truly understand how much anxiety it causes you, you may be able to negotiate with them about responsibilities and repercussions. My heart goes out to you.

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  • I would get some professional help. get them to a good psychologist / psychiatrist or ask your GP for advice.

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  • My sons’ best friend committed suicide, it was very difficult on all of us. He called 10 minutes before hanging himself and to this day I regret not picking up the phone. Our son told us he was having trouble at home and was also in therapy for depression. I noticed changes in his friend, like changing his appearance, constantly saying good bye to everyone, closing his facebook, and being quite moody. Most that threaten to kill themselves don’t go through with it, they just want attention.

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  • Thank you …. yes I do have a partner & yes and no It depends on his mood for support, but putting him in the mix can some times make the problem worse.

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  • I am sorry for your problem you have and all I could think of was to have them checked by your GP and than see what they suggest. I hope you get it sorted or find an answer

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  • My daughter does this also but in an attention seeking form. I’d suggest taking them individually to your GP and having a mental health assessment done. Good luck, it’s so hard raising children these days.

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  • I would get this checked she could be suffering from depression. Its becoming out of control. I have a friend whos daughter passed away due to suicide and the school got involved and found out other kids were think the same thing even pne kid was planing to do it the same night as this girl. What are kids thinking these day the poor family that is left to pick up the pieces and watch them go through hell. I believe the mental health system should be more involved with these kind of issues. and they should talk about it a school.

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  • teenagers are changing… not for the better

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  • Oh I Feel Your Pain, Not Thru My Own Children As They Are Still Young, But We Had Custody Of OUr Nephew Thru His Teen Years, And If He Didn’t Get His Own Way Watch Out Hell Would Break Lose, He Left School And All, He Now Lives With His Great Nanna, He Is Almost 18, He Had Gone Back To School, And Did Apologies For Being The Way He Was, I Hope It All Works Out For You Soon xx

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  • I was behaving the same way as a teenager.. It was just a cry for attention. Let her know she is hurting you and hopefully she can understnad

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