I have a two year old and an eight month old baby, last time I returned to work when my baby nearly a year old and I still cried! This time I am returning to work next week and my youngest will only be turning eight months old and I feel physically sick..due to money issues I have no choice. I know once I’m back I will feel okay but for now I am absolutely dreading this, in fact I haven’t slept in a week (hence I am in the MOM site all the time!) every night I just think “I’m going to ring tmw and just quit! And sell the house and live with my mum so I do t have to leave my babies” (don’t know if my mum would be too impressed haha!!!) I need to win the lotto!!!

Posted anonymously, 30th September 2015

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  • I feel your pain!! I have returned to work after 8 years of being a stay at home mum and I have had Mum guilt ever since. My kids will regularly tell me they hate me working and its not fair that they have to go to holiday care and after school care, which makes returning to work so much easier pft! Do it while they are young and can get used to it, once they are older it is a lot harder!!


  • yeah it is so tough! i know you would eventually get used to it but i feel for you! maybe talk to your employer and see if there is someway that you could have flexible hours or do some work from home. good luck and do what is best for you!


  • Going back to work is so hard, even when it’s right for you.


  • Keeping your long term goals in mind does help. :)


  • Keep trying to remember you are doing it for the kids


  • Returning to work after kids is the hardest thing to do, the guilt we feel is overwhelming but sometimes we can’t help it, try and not stress as the kids pick up on it, just remember enjoy every minute you do have with them and aim for a day that maybe you can strive and be a stay at home mum, took my husband to work away from home for 9 years which he missed out on our kids growing up but he did this so I could be a stay at home mum and we could buy our dream home, which we now have done and he works local and we love having him home every night, I do many hobbies that bring in cash also which I can work around my kids.


  • it is for the kids why you are returning to work, to give them the best of things life has to offer. Try not to feel bad. Goodluck.
    It would be great to win tatts.


  • Please talk this out with someone – it is tough and there are tears and you need to be able to talk it out and share your feelings. Would a counsellor help? I have been in this position and yep – tears and every other emotion, but it gets better. Sending you well wishes! xo :)


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