Reading other mum’s horror birth stories has had a positive effect on me. I too had a horror birth with the problems encountered with the birth of my first child (largely due in my mind and my husband’s mind due to the inept hospital staff). It has haunted me for years and I felt guilty for choosing that hospital and being persuaded into believing they were well-skille, and guilt for feeling all of this when I had a happy and healthy child at the end of it all. Even at an ante-natal class reunion more horror birth stories emerged, except for one mum who had an easy birth but then found out her child had cystic fibrosis.
My second child’s birth also encountered difficulties, yet they were handled professionally and quickly (at a totally different hospital with much better staff) and I would have loved to have had a third at the same hospital, but nature decided no.
Even after this I still secretly carried a type of grieving and guilt from the first experience, until quite recently. Reading other mum’s stories really put my experience into perspective for me and I realised I’m not alone, things could have been much worse and we all love our children so very much.
So I’d like to send a virtual hug and congratulations to all those out there who had such bad or difficult times during childbirth, you got throught it and you’re such caring and loving mums. Happy Mothers’ Day in advance!
Posted by jayella, 29th April 2013