My hubby and i have three lovely kids a boy who is 7, a girl who is 5 and my bubs who is 3. we have just decided to try our luck to go for our last bubs. I am fourty just. It would mean getting the marina removed and trying again. I am kind of scared as we have been blessed with three lovely kids and i know there is a chance of loss with every pregnancy. We lost our first precious bundle of joy at 24 weeks he survived 40 hours and passed away under going a operattion not long after birth. Although i thought i felt complete i dont. Am I been selfish???? Or just wanting what i have lost.. I just do not know…I think having another bubs will complete the family, thats if i am lucky and it all works to plan….

Posted by mom56312, 9th October 2015

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  • really only you and your family can decide this one. i feel that with my 3 kids, i am complete and happy with my family! i realise that babies are cute and stuff and i will always feel that maternal urge but i think that i want to focus on my kids that i have and just enjoy them. Have a chat to your doc and see what he says. You will know when you are ready. give yourself time to get used to the idea and when or if it does feel right, then follow your heart! Good luck darl!


  • I don’t think you ever feel complete after losing a child.

    • I agree – it is a difficult and stays with you forever.


  • Such a personal decision and best of luck. :)


  • I don’t think you are being selfish. If it doesn’t feel complete, I wish you all the best


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