In 2010 I fell pregnant, My fiance and I were very happy
We already had a 3 yr old and were excited for a new addition
10 weeks in I miscarried, it broke us but made us stronger and closer
I never expected it because I already had my son and never had any problems. My pregnancy with him was great. Labour was 6 hrs with no drugs and was perfect
After we grieved and accepted our loss we decided to wait until we both felt ready
a few months later i felt sick, i knew i was pregnant. I was so scared to have it confirmed so i just kept going like nothing was happening. My belly popped and i couldnt keep it up without making it official so off to the ultrasound place we went. I laid down and as soon as the lady put the wand on my belly you could clearly see 2 babies. I went into shock and sat there. I couldnt talk, move or anything. My fiance was giggling and I was still in shock haha.
A few months went on and it was time to find out the sex of our twins! A boy & a girl we were told and how happy we were :) Then we were referred for another scan which we didnt understand why. At that scan we were 24 weeks & told our little girl had a spinal condition. It wasn’t spina bifida but it was something that could be linked to over 86 different syndromes. We had no idea how to feel, what to think. I just cried!

We were then sent to the genetics centre, they had the balls to tell us to terminate her! I couldnt believe it. I kept asking why what is wrong with her and they couldnt tell me exactly what was wrong, they just kept saying that I wouldnt be a bad person if we terminated her, and she could be a burden and not have life quality etc.
My fiance was never going to consider terminating her. I briefly considered it as in if she had no quality of life and couldnt be happy then i would but i couldnt even think about that because they couldnt tell me what was wrong with her.
Finally we decided we were not even going to consider terminating her. We would deal with what ever it was.
A few weeks later my beautiful niece was born. she was the first girl grandchild of my mums born.
My sister expected a beautiful healthy baby girl as nothing was picked up in ultrasound but she was born with a syndrome. So that made me even more scared about my daughter and what would be wrong with her.

I was so scared and only a month away from having my babies

long story short, my babies were born a month early
yes my daughter has a spinal condition but it hasnt effected anything else
she is walking and very happy
she is quite small and wont grow at normal rate but isnt too far behind her brother
she cannot turn her head all the way right
but she is beautiful and happy


Posted by mrsgreen12, 19th May 2014

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  • nice and exellent to read the story


  • top story to read


  • I’m so glad you didn’t follow the advice to terminate your little girl when they couldn’t even tell you what was wrong. Best wishes and love to you and your family. You have been through a lot.


  • That is really good to hear, you have a beautiful family


  • I’m glad you followed your instincts. It would have been a tragedy to terminate when she is OK now. Few people are perfect, we all have our little or big problems, but I think you doctors were wrong in their suggestion in your case.


  • Mothers know best. I’m so glad things turned out for you and your family.


  • Great story! I’m glad your daughter is well and healthy :)


  • pleased your girl is doing well, I hope you always have some improvement, and that things go well. yes, trusting your instincts is most vital,


  • what a beautiful story and I would never had been able to get rid of one of the babies. It was great to read she is doing well


  • Good on you so glad you trusted your instincts.. I think we need to trust our instincts


  • Sometimes i think some doctors are to quick to say the ‘T” word I’m really glad that you and your partner went with your hearts and went on to have both your children.
    Hopefully everything goes well for your daughter and she lives a long and wonderful life.


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