My work history has included some pretty amazing positions that have been highly stressful, involved a lot of time away from home but also rewarding. I’ve been home for a few months now recharging and am ready to get back to work. The tricky thing is all the positions I’m interested in applying for require me to live overseas for a time, without my family. My children are grown up but still have 3 at home. I’m torn between having employment that is fulfilling and something I want to do and being home with my family which I also want to do. I don’t want to be someone that is miserable in their job and complain about it. I have looked at positions here and nothing is exciting me. I will need to focus on getting the balance right.

Posted anonymously, 1st November 2016

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  • A family discussion is helpful when weighing up these decisions. If your children are now adults, I imagine they may be quite supportive? It does depend on your partner and children and ages and responsibilities? Good Luck!


  • Getting the balance right is important and something only you can decide but you say they are grown up? (is that teenagers who can still be demanding, or legal adults who are responsible for themselves?) It would be a shame if you missed a chance that excited you overseas since at their stage aren’t they about to leave the nest anyway – study, work, partner, etc? It would be right that they moved on. Maybe they need you still, but maybe they also need to feel they can up and go without having to stay for you? Maybe a good long talk about how you all feel and what are your plans for the next 2, 5 or 10 years? then decide?


  • How old are the kids, and how long would you be away?


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