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My daughter recently had a sleep over at a friends place, the girls are 8 & 9 and when my daughter returned home she informed me that two of the girls had smoked a cigarette. I have not informed the parents as I dnt believe much decipline will be delivered and I would like to have some trust with the children. This isn’t as easy a situation as you would think. I believe education these days should be enough to prevent children from this sort of activity how ever the culture they are surrounded by can be the biggest influence.


Posted anonymously, 8th July 2014


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  • God, they’re a big young. I think you did the right thing not sobbing, as long as your child isn’t participating

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  • That’s shocking. I have to wonder what the parents were doing whilst the cigarette was being smoked

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  • smoking

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  • Possibly no more sleepovers at their place?!

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  • I would raise this with the parents; they may be unaware!

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  • OMG! This is my daughters age. Where are the parents!

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  • Hi mums; to further the conversation; my daughter had told the girls mother, however it seems things have gotten worse and I have had to ask my daughter to distance her self. The child is for other reasons now seeing a psychologist; however I believe it maybe the girls environment (older teenage sisters) and possible not enough dicapline; I believe our environment and support makes us who we are; we are lucky we have this site for such media to be discussed. The girl is a worry and some of things happening are horrifying. I will keep you informed. This is why we have welfare, Im worried about the childs environment

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  • Wow 8 & 9 smoking? that’s just crazy, love the fact your daughter has that openness with you and confided in you. x

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  • It’s hard when peer pressure comes in to it. I believe that education is the key too, unfortunately many others disagree.

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  • Good that your daughter informed you. Education aside, do the parents of the girls that were smoking smoke? Doing what their parents do if that is the case.

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  • thats tough and sometimes you have to talk to the adults first because some children are nothing like their parents and might just have that evil streak

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  • I think its great that you have a great bond with your children, but if your child was to do something behind your back because they know you wouldnt agree wouldnt you want to be told as a parent i know i would.
    I think if i was in that situation i would of said something to the girls parents regardless of what i thought the punishment or not would of been.

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  • Great to see that you have a clear open communication going between yourself and your child. It’s something that I had with my mother and something that I value to this day.

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  • I hope those girls felt sick & threw up. I think you have a good bond with your daughter that she was able to confide in you & by the sounds of her actions she knew what the others did was bad. Praise her on her good judgement & common sense.

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  • Talk to your daughter and ask her what she thought of these kids smoking..she might surprise you with her response

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