My daughter has been with the same sporting organisation for 2 years & I’m yet to make a single friend there apart from the coach (who is everyone’s friend) The mums who work behind the scenes are very close and although they advertise for help from other parents are not friendly or welcoming. I volunteered at their last fundraiser as a way of making friends but NO ONE spoke to me, other than to tick my name of the list. We have to travel interstate for competitions and I always feel lost and not part of the group. When we are asked to wait as a team, the mums segragate in to groups depending on the private schools that their children attend. My daughter attends a public school and I struggle to pay her sporting fees, but do everything I can because I know she loves doing what she’s doing. I donate from my small business to all their raffles, I go out of my way to be an extra pair of hands when they need something done but still everyone just keeps to their own groups I’ve already decided that we’re leaving the team at the end of the year, if I could leave sooner I would but I have a contract with the team because of the interstate travel involved that we remain a part of the team until the end of the year. I just don’t feel welcome though & my daughter has mentioned that she feels the same way. It’s hard because she loves what she does and she trains hard to be apart of the team, but we just don’t feel like we belong. Living in a rural area we don’t have the options to change to another team, so leaving the team, means leaving the sport. Are most sporting team mums this way or just our team?
Posted anonymously, 1st July 2014