I think people like your father wants their children to turn out just like them. My advise to you is be the best you can be, make your mother proud, that despite what you went through in your life, be successful in your acheivements, no matter what they are. Remember success is different for everyone.

I can understand how incredibly frustrating it must be for you to watch him get away with everything. I wonder the same about certain people in my life, though I try not to dwell on it because it’s not good for my health. I try to believe that karma is not just for this life, but for future ones as well. He might never pay in this life, but the next one he might be the one who’s raising 5 kids while coping with the abuse of an alcoholic partner. And your mum might have the most joyous life you could ask for in her next life. Why she’s been lumped with such a bad one this time? Who knows, but maybe she has lessons to learn from previous lives. I guess we can never know for sure how karma works, but that’s how I like to see it otherwise it can get too hard to deal with if karma really only applied to one lifetime. Try to stay positive that things are just as intended, that you, your mum and your siblings are making way for something better in the future, if not in this life then the next. Dwelling on it too much is only hurting you, and the last thing you deserve is more pain.

I too am waiting on a few slaps from the Karma Queen, for a couple of people. Like you, it’s hard to see bad keep happening to the good, while the bad roll on enjoying life. Maybe dying from his alcoholism will be his karma…..alone and unloved and in pain

meh – don’t give the idiot any more space in your head rent free! just be thankful for what you have, and blessed to have such a super awesome mum x

I suspect that he isn’t happy and never will be. I hope that is some consolation.

nice story for read

Best to concentrate on your family.

He has to live with what he did every day, and whether he feels bad about it now or not, he will one day. That’s karma.

I don’t really believe in karma, so I don’t look for what you think should happen to your father. I do believe that there will be a judgement day which is completely different.The important thing for you is what the two previous comments have suggested. Choose to think about your life now, and be the best mum you can be. Don’t let your feelings about your father be the main thing – that would mean you are allowing him to continue to wreck your life as an adult even when he is not entitled to be in your life at all now. One day at a time, when thoughts about him come into your head, tell yourself you don’t choose that any more. You have much better things to think about. All the best with preparing for your new baby.

Just concentrate on your baby and the family you are creating.

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  I agree; focus all of your positive energy on yourself and your family as negative energy is draining and un productive. Treat yourself well and do not give negativity and air time any room in your life.

Please don’t concentrate on your father, he really isn’t worth your energy. Concentrate on your baby and your future. That’s where your happiness lies, not looking back at an unhappy time of your life. Think good thoughts and try to forget the negative stuff, it is possible, I’ve done it and my life is great now. The only time I get upset is when other family members remind me of what my teenage life was like. Thank God it over and I live in the present and not the past, I hope you can do the same. You are still young and it would be a shame to waste any more of your youth on worrying about a horrible man from your past.

The man has lost his family & kids. Each day he drinks his sorrows away & drives himself crazy by all his thinking that he does by his lonely self. I think he’s got his Karma but not in the way you would wish.

As they say, what goes around comes around. It may be tomorrow it may be next decade but it will happen

I feel the same way about an uncle and hope all the bad people get bad karma soon

karma is a strange thing and it really started the day your Mum left and all you kids as well. Your Mum is a very strong woman and he will end up a very lonely man.