Hello!

19 Comments

I’m 33 weeks pregnant with our second baby, we have only been married 6 months and this was my birthday weekend. My husband forgot- instead organising a night out for His friends birthday. He spent $1800 on god knows what whilst out last night and spent all day(my bday) sleeping his hangover off on the couch. He then hands me a $100 westfield gift card. What?!!! I’m his wife- that’s hardly a thoughtful or intimate gift!!! That’s an afterthought gift for someone you barely know. So I threw it at him and cried. He told me im ungrateful and I have an attitude. Seriously I want to punch him so hard in the face!!! Please ladies tell me I’m not crazy and hormonal and anyone else would be upset by these events.


Posted anonymously, 17th August 2014


Post your story
  • I would have been very angry,he was so in the wrong!

    Reply

  • Did he do better this year?

    Reply

  • A $100 gift card is generous but that is not the point is it . Do you think he remembered your day AFTER he organised his event and said s… I forgot it was my wife’s birthday and bought you the card quickly otherwise if he came in empty handed . Take the gift card anyway , tell him he was very silly for forgetting your birthday and not to do it again and maybe just have a night out to make up for it . We all make mistakes so hopefully you can forgive him and spend on something really nice for yourself .

    Reply

  • I’m thinking maybe a touch hormonal. A $100 gift card is not a bad present. Having said that, I would be incredibly pissed off if I was I your shoes…..and I’m not pregnant! Did you both work it out?

    Reply

  • Seriously? What an a#*hole, you poor thing. You have every right to be upset. Hope things get better for you. xo

    Reply

  • How upsetting for you! This is totally unacceptable and you have every right to know where the money went; how it was spent? You are the number one in his life and not his friends. You are quite justified in being upset about your birthday. Thinking of you. x :)

    Reply

  • You are not hormonal and crazy he needs to lift his game. You already know that and you know you are right to be upset. Men just don’t get it do they ?? I noticed once I was married and pregnant my husband didn’t feel he needed to pamper me anymore, it was like he had me now so didn’t need to impress me anymore. I’ve just kinda gotten used to it now but reading your post has reminded me I need to give him a kick up the behind and let him know it not okay…I hope you do the same too (just wait until he’s sober though). good lunch and I hope he realises what a jerk he is.

    Reply

  • Pfftt some men. I’d be angry as well and I also wouldn’t accept the gift card. I’d be wanting answers to how he managed to spend so much money.

    Reply

  • Oh wow! I would have reacted the exact same way! I pictured my own husband the whole time I was reading this.. I’m currently 31wks pregnant & I just don’t think he gets it.. He’s still very self centred when it comes to weekend antics & drinking.. He says he’s just getting it in while he can before baby arrives, but I do wonder if it will change,, :(
    Good luck!

    Reply

  • Wow thats lots of money to be spending on a friend’s birthday. I dont even spend that much on my kids party’s. I would be sitting down with him and telling him how you feel. Happy birthday by the way :)

    Reply

  • I would be asking where the hell $1800 had gone and all he could get you was $100 giftcard.
    I thought the first year of marriage was meant to be the best hmm will keep my fingers crossed that he does better next year for you xx

    Reply

  • Unless someone specifically asks for a gift card, I never give them, as I think they’re a lazy gift. I would have been furious if my husband did what yours did, but I would have kept the gift card. Sod giving it back to him. And revenge can be sweet. Let him do his own cooking and laundry for a couple of weeks, and see if he’s laughing then.

    Reply

  • Nope all husbands and partners can be idiots, and you have every right to be cranky, but he will never see it!! I think you do the same at his birthday!

    Reply

  • Your not crazy I would be very upset also! And I was men my ex partner choose to be with his older children than being with me and our 22 month old babie on mothers day never really got over it. Hope you didn’t stay home all day waiting for him and had a nice birthday with friends or family! Happy Birthday.

    Reply

  • I’d have been ropable! And for him to call you ungrateful just adds further insult to injury. No, I don’t think you’re crazy or hormonal. I would have trouble forgiving such insensitivity.

    Reply

Post a comment
Like Facebook page

LIKE MoM on Facebook

Please enter your comment below
Would you like to include a photo?
No picture uploaded yet.
Please wait to see your image preview here before hitting the submit button.
Your MoM account


Lost your password?

Enter your email and a password below to post your comment and join MoM:

↥ Back to top

Thanks For Your Star Rating!

Would you like to add a written rating or just a star rating?

Write A Rating Just A Star Rating
Join