Definitely a “to each their own” I think. Do or don’t pick a name early – at the end of the day it is the parents decision only.

We found out the sex of each of our Children, I liked my Son’s name for years and my Husband was on board with it, although, he did want his shortened name as our Son’s middle name but it did not flow with our Son’s name and our Surname so we agreed on a suitable middle name. When we had our Daughter we also found out that she was a girl. The names we originally had chosen for a girl when my son was born was used by a friend, so that name was out. We decided to involve our son who was 8 at the time in naming his sister. He first chose a name that was his best friend’s Sister’s name, although we like the name, we didn’t think it appropriate as we think he had a little crush on his friend’s older Sister. Lol ! The second name he chose was a very pretty name that I hadn’t even thought of and he chose her middle name as well and it is a beautiful name.

As for not deciding to find out, this is a personal issue and it is neither right or wrong and parents should not be judged for waiting. Even though, I found out with my two children, if I had a third child, I would have waited for the surprise as I already had one of each.

As for waiting to see your child to choose what name suits, I’m on the fence for 3 reasons. Firstly most newborns change in the first couple of months and although some keep some of their newborn features, the don’t really look the same as when they were born. Secondly, your child develops their own unique personality and any name picked will not change this. I have had a friend recently did not name her baby for over 4 weeks, which was a bit too long I think, especially, with their response to hearing their name.

All 3 of my kids were born nameless and we never found out the sex before they were born. We had discussed names but never picked one until they were born. It wasn’t about what they looked like when they were born it a feeling I had when I held them. Then I chose the names.

I know quite a few people who have been set on a name only to change it once the baby was actually born because the original name didn’t “suit but we named all 4 of ours before they were born.

I think so what is right for you. I always new what I wanted to call my daughter so for me this was the easiest decision I made during pregnancy. I do know some friends who have waited till they met their child to decide on a name.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 18 Jun 2023 , 6:06 am

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  I agree, we waited and found the right names for our children when they were born.

We waited and when they were born chose names that are perfect for them.
We enjoyed being in the moment of each pregnancy and waited for each new step such as naming.

We named all our kids before they were born. I tend to agree with the Dad on this one. Better to take time to think about it.

Why do we have to chose a baby name before the baby is born? Because making a life changing decision on a whim is immature.

I agree, we don’t have to choose a baby name before the baby is born. We picked the name of our first born 3 days after she was born.
My parents picked the name Martine for me with as middle name Ellen. When they saw me they thought Martine didn’t suite me, but Ellen. So they decided to call me by my middle name.

Waiting until you see the baby shouldn’t be an issue. Gather a list of ones you like, as many as you like and take your time when he or she is here.

I think most people have a short-list and wait to meet baby! The father of the child and I had a preferred name and a short list… we ended up choosing the preferred name but nice to wait to bet bubs first. The certainly don’t all look the same!

We had two names ready for each bub and then chose one the baby was born depending on which one seemed to suit more!

I couldn’t decide on a name until my baby arrived, and even then it took a few days!

I did have two names for my twin boys before they were born. But I know a few people who haven’t had names when the baby was born. Which is fine.

We don’t have too….