Wow he shouldn’t be in that type of employment if he doesn’t know how to manage it and still care for his wife.

I think it is high time that you stopped work to concentrate on your upcoming birth and then maybe both of you will feel less stressed. The baby too needs for you both to be calm for him/her in their first few weeks at home with you. Good luck to you in the future.

I do think that she needs to find help elsewhere as her husband does need to be alert with the type of job he has. If things are so difficult why isn’t she at home resting instead of working. I’m sorry but she’s just making life difficult for the both of them. I hope things calm down and get back to somewhat normalcy once the baby has arrived. Couldn’t she call on her family or friends just to give them both a break?

He is being unfair, but I can also see it would be a huge pressure to be interrupted in that kind of job.

Sounds like your both under a lot of stress, maybe the birth of number 2 will be a huge relief fir both of you

This couple needs some outside help and support. If she is that exhausted now, how are they going to cope with a new born as well? They are about to add sleep deprivation to the mix. He sounds like he has reached his limit. Something needs to give for them before it all gets a lot worse.

So you are patient number 41 for your husband have you ever stopped to think he is at his limit . Just give him some space he needs help and consideration also .

Wow. I imagine amongst your feeling sick, faint etc you were also worried about your baby. There some red flags here with your husband. I hope things improve once the baby is here.

They need to get some help or she honestly needs to give up working to focus on herself firstly, and then handle other issues. Comprising is the key element here.

Both of them are very stressed, tired, overworked and anxious so of course, things are going to be difficult. They both need to empathise with each other, take a deep breath and try to get through this together. Maybe ask for some outside help with the chores.

That is horrible! l call my husband heaps at work and this sort of aggression never happens

Feeling like passing out is no joke. Do you both have anyone who can help with the toddler or house once in a while just for you both to have break?
If he didn’t want another baby, he obviously knows how it all works!

You need to listen to him and have empathy towards him he’s at his limit. Give him a break seriously you are both burnt out, why even be on his case let it go. Best to call him if you need him to come to you. Otherwise leave him alone while he is working you are adding to his stressful work environment and pushing him to his limits. Now is not the time for arguing over this. People need down time too. I think if your able to it’s best you leave work and focus on your health and your families health

It’s completely understandable to seek support from your partner, especially during a physically and emotionally demanding time like pregnancy. You’re not wrong for needing him, and his reaction was unsupportive and hurtful.

Speak to your Doctor about this. You may be having blood pressure issues.
Is there any way you could take extra time off work? If there is then perhaps that would help both you and your husband.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 23 May 2024 , 5:54 pm

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  Yes, I think too you should consult your doctor with these symptoms

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    • • mom93821 replied
      • 24 May 2024 , 4:58 am

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    Medical follow up is so important.

I think that you have to acknowledge how stressed out he is too and his reaction may be due to that,
Maybe finish up work now if you are unwell and give yourself some more time. Ask family for help. Talk to your doctor too.

Sounds you both are tired and stressed and rightly so.
Of course you’re not wrong for asking help and it wouldn’t have been wrong when your husband askes for help either.
Men are simply a bit different wired than women; his response doesn’t sound out of line to me. Also in some jobs (like your husbands) it’s simply not possible to take a phone call or support a family member during work hours (unless it’s an emergency).

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 23 May 2024 , 7:47 am

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  I think it’s important you ask help. Is there a family member or friend close to you who could help. Otherwise you should arrange formal support, for example someone who helps with cleaning cooking and your toddler.
  You also wrote you’re in your last trimester and still worker. Maybe it’s time to arrange maternity leave at this point

Her husband shouldn’t be so snappy, and saying he’s not excited about the baby anymore is a major AH move. I can empathize wanting to call and have a quick winge. My husband works in medicine and unless it’s an emergency I can’t call. It sounds like they both need to be sympathetic to the other, but the husband needs to settle down asap because soon OP will be dealing with postpartum hormones and will need extra support.

Both parties in a relationship need support regardless of their jobs. Professional support & resources to manage work related stress might be a good idea.

Gosh i feel like so many red flags here if his empathy has been lacking this whole time even prior to the pregnancy. You need a supportive partner in life