I know a child has very rarely been spoilt. Parents and Grandparents have the same rules and abide by them strictly. He knows he is loved and is a fairly affectionate 5 y.o. He still throws tantrums and recently has become very sneaky, pulling stunts his older brother did when he was younger but there is big age difference. Puts food in his older brother’s room and he gets all the punishment. The 5 y.o. old has admitted what he is doing but Dad always blames the older one.

Good tips. I’ve 2 temporary foster kids (8 and 9 year old) who blow regularly tantrums – lasting a hour- and hit, kick, spit and scratch and they behave spoiled and manipulate with that behaviour. Very difficult to unspoil them as we then have to deal with another tantrum lasting a hour by which my kids were kicked and scratched and I myself even got hit. But I see big time improvement over the last half year. And sense by myself that where I first did everything to avoid escalations and tantrums, I now don’t take it any more ! Zero tolerance, I’m the boss !!

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  • • mom90758 replied
    • 18 Jan 2018 , 11:49 am

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  You are amazing, Ellen, for everything you do for those foster kids!!

I like the list of how to unspoil them. My girls display some spoilt behaviours but are getting better as they get older.

I’m glad my daughter has never been spoiled. I don’t know if I would be good at handling her otherwise.

I think every kid could tick a could of those boxes. Considering I have an only child, he’s remarkably unspoiled in my opinion.

Great advice I think what also helps with not spoling your children is consistency, basic rules and not giving them everything as this may be what they will always expect and you may confuse them when and if you say “no” to something in the future. Also start teaching all of the positive things and encouragement and not giving them everything from a very young age.