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A touching letter from a Doctor that sees parents suffering in silence.

Texas Children’s Hospital recently started an initiative to raise awareness about palliative care programs in the NICUs.

Dr. Karen E. Johnson, one of the hospital’s neonatologists wrote this moving tribute to the babies she treats.

As a neonatologist, I care for the sickest babies in the hospital.

This is a letter to the parents that no one wants to talk about. The parents that never get to send out birth announcements. The parents that never get that first smile or first step. The parents that say goodbye when they should be saying hello. I wrote this letter for you.

It all starts when you find out you’re going to have a child. You’re going to be a mum! You’re going to be a dad! You make that first doctor appointment and all you can dream about is that first sonogram and hearing that first heartbeat. You wonder who your child will look like and what their personality will be like. You never imagine that you will never know.

Then you get a phone call that brings you to your knees. You hold on to the hope that maybe the tests are wrong. That hope gets you through the myriad of consults with genetics counsellors, maternal fetal medicine specialists, cardiologists, neurologists and surgeons. Hope that you continue to cling to, hoping beyond hope, that just maybe these tests will prove that your baby is healthy.

The answer is no, your baby will not live a long or a healthy life.

And now you lie awake at night wondering, what do we do now? You wonder, why did this happen and what did I do wrong? The answer is, you didn’t do anything wrong and we are here to help. You were dealt the toughest hand in this life. It is a hard, long road you are about to walk but we are here to support you. I have made it my life’s mission.

My job doesn’t stop when the bad news comes.

No matter how long your child lives, every baby is loved. We discuss how to make your child comfortable and how to keep your family together from the first breath to the last. We develop a plan for feeding and to care for all aspects of your child’s life and in doing so, know how much your child is loved.

We work with our child life specialists to develop legacy items of pictures, videos and foot and hand-print molds. While your precious one may not stay with us in body, we work to make sure you have as many lasting memories as possible.

We also offer resources for your family to bring your child into your faith.

We honor your roles as parents, the role this new child holds in your family, for however short or long and as you say goodbye to your precious little one, we hope you remember that you honored this new life and that legacy of love will live on.

This child will always be yours, and you will always be a parent.”

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  • My heart hurts reading this touching letter. I’m sorry to all the parents that have been through such pain.

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  • My heart goes out to all those parents who have to say good bye to their baby too soon.
    Glad that there are Doctors who do their job with their heart and make it their passion to for those to have walk this difficult path.

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  • Sweet thoughtful letter. Thanks for sharing.

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  • Such a beautiful moving article. Soe of the medical staff probably feel stressed but that doesn’t help the distressed parents. The hospitals need to have a specially trained conunseller on standby, not available just for maternity but afterwards when needed.

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  • What a wonderful caring Dr.
    I know that pain and I feel for those parents

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  • I wish medical staff ad actually been this sensitive.

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  • This must be one of the hardest things to go through in life.

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  • What a touching letter this doctor decided to share with the world. So heartbreaking for all those parents. :-(

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