A bride has threatened to dump her sister as her bridesmaid after she cut her hair short prior to the wedding…

An angry bridesmaid has taken to a wedding forum to share her frustration after her sister threatened to cut her from the wedding party. The bridesmaid says she had a dramatic haircut just prior to the wedding, but that her sister never stipulated how long she wanted the bridesmaid’s hair to be.

Meeting Requirements

The bridesmaid said her sister’s reaction was unexpected and unnecessary.

“So my sister is getting married in like a week and a half and I’m a bridesmaid,” she wrote. “When she chose her bridesmaids, she stated she would rather us not have unnatural coloured hair, just in case it clashes with her dresses (a little dumb but pretty understandable) but other than that, she didn’t care what we did.”

After growing her hair long for years, the bridesmaid said she decided to get the chop and donate the hair to charity.

“I sent a picture of my new hair in a group chat to my family and my sister immediately said, ‘Oh my God, why would you do this right before the wedding?!’ and today told me I had to get extensions or I was out of her wedding.” Just a little dramatic?

A Step Too Far

Despite her sister’s demands, the bridesmaid says she has no intention of changing her hair before the big day.

“I told her I wouldn’t be paying to get extensions and to just leave me out of the wedding if she’s going to be that angry over my haircut,” she said. “If she wanted us all to have long hair, that’s all well and good. But she didn’t.”

This is such an awkward situation! While we can understand where the bride is coming from, having your sister beside you on your big day is more important than any hair cut – especially when she did it for a good cause! Here’s hoping the sisters can sort out their disagreement and enjoy this exciting time.

Would you ask your bridesmaids not to cut their hair? Let us know in the comments!

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  • I dont really understand why someone would get a dramatic haircut just a week before the wedding.
    That ebing saide I dont agree with the brides reaction. She could have said “Im disappointed” but to start making threats of her sister being out of the wedding if she doesnt get extensions… well that would be it for me. I would grab it and run….I would be saying “No extensions for me so im out….I dont do threats”


  • Why would you dramatically change it just before a wedding. The bride would have already made plans of how to have everyone’s hair. Not the time to stress out a bride!


  • Sounds like there was an argument because why would you chose to chop your hair right before a special event like a wedding?


  • Doesn’t the meaning behind the haircut make the bridesmaid more beautiful?


  • Such a pity that weddings aren’t the realm of the bride and groom anymore. They now seem to be the most expensive, over-the-top, and out-do everyone else. Once upon a time it was purely a celebration of the bride and groom tying the knot. Not sure I like all these modern weddings that cost the price of a house and then the couple don’t stay married anyway.


  • May be. They always your close friend always wish you beautiful on your wedding day.


  • I can see both sides- it really depends how short as she might have planned a hairdresser to style it and it might throw out the look, but on the other side it is just hair.


  • isnt the aim of the day/occasion about a marriage, not hairstyles and anyway the focus is on the bride and groom.


  • Yet another old story …this story is from MAY 2019… i am hoping all had a buzz cut.


  • I can’t even believe I’m bothering to comment on this but here goes. While we can understand where the bride is coming from? Seriously? Someone in that soon to be wedding party needs to grow up and get a reality check and it isn’t the bridesmaid. It’s just hair, unless of course soon to be bride chose her wedding party based on hair alone. One word comes to mind — shallow.


  • Weddings… supposed to be such a fabulous time but often we hear these stories of trouble. It doesn’t matter if it’s family or close friends, often there is something that will trigger an upset.


  • I have been engaged for 5 years but have had my family instead of getting married. When we finally do i will be picking my bridesmaids because they mean something special to me not how they look


  • You pick your bridesmaids because they are people you love not for what they look like!


  • A wedding is a celebration – a time to unite and enjoy the company of your spouse and loved ones …. I would never dictate to my family or friends (whether in the bridal party or not), as to what they could or couldn’t wear, or how they cut or style their hair!


  • Shouldn’t a wedding be a celebration of the union of two people that have decided they love each other and want to spend and create their lives together and they want to share that with those they care for and love?
    If all involved remember the original reason they were all there – the bride, the groom, the bridal party, the guests – and that was the only importance – that union being celebrated – then it wouldn’t matter how someone didn’t look perfect for the day, it wouldn’t matter how many thousands of little things went wrong on the day, the wedding party and hopefully the guests would all band together to make it the celebration of that union it should be instead of a series of individual me, me, me moments. It’s not a stage show people are coming to witness. It’s a wedding, a party, a celebration amongst people who love and care for each other.
    In a ideal world only I guess….


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