A bride has threatened to dump her sister as her bridesmaid after she cut her hair short prior to the wedding…

An angry bridesmaid has taken to a wedding forum to share her frustration after her sister threatened to cut her from the wedding party. The bridesmaid says she had a dramatic haircut just prior to the wedding, but that her sister never stipulated how long she wanted the bridesmaid’s hair to be.

Meeting Requirements

The bridesmaid said her sister’s reaction was unexpected and unnecessary. “So my sister is getting married in like a week and a half and I’m a bridesmaid,” she wrote. “When she chose her bridesmaids, she stated she would rather us not have unnatural coloured hair, just in case it clashes with her dresses (a little dumb but pretty understandable) but other than that, she didn’t care what we did.”

After growing her hair long for years, the bridesmaid said she decided to get the chop and donate the hair to charity. “I sent a picture of my new hair in a group chat to my family and my sister immediately said, ‘Oh my God, why would you do this right before the wedding?!’ and today told me I had to get extensions or I was out of her wedding.” Just a little dramatic?

A Step Too Far

Despite her sister’s demands, the bridesmaid says she has no intention of changing her hair before the big day. “I told her I wouldn’t be paying to get extensions and to just leave me out of the wedding if she’s going to be that angry over my haircut,” she said. “If she wanted us all to have long hair, that’s all well and good. But she didn’t.”

This is such an awkward situation! While we can understand where the bride is coming from, having your sister beside you on your big day is more important than any hair cut – especially when she did it for a good cause! Here’s hoping the sisters can sort out their disagreement and enjoy this exciting time.

Would you ask your bridesmaids not to cut their hair? Let us know in the comments!

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  • Good grief, I didn’t realise hair styles/cuts/colours were something that some brides had to have perfect.


  • There is one charity that runs a promotion at the same time every year to get hair to make into wigs for cancer patients that lose their hair. If the bride didn’t stipulate that she wanted the bridesmaids to not have their cut – not just keep its natural colour she shouldn’t be so antsty about it. A “bob cut” if done professionally often looks better than scraggly long hair that falls over eyes and is being pushed back all the time.


  • I was kicked out of a friend’s bridal party for refusing to cut my hair! Bride ‘s hairdresser said the bridesmaids had to have hair the same length to make it easier for her to do identical styles. Mine was waist length, the other bridesmaid had a bob. The hairdresser said she’d cut it anyway on the wedding day whether I liked it or not. I wanted to go to my own hairdresser but the bride was worried about upsetting her hairdresser so she kicked me out instead.


  • Sounds like a Bridezilla to me. I’d say, “fine, I’m out”


  • Sounds a bit over the top to me.


  • Well it also depends on her haircut. If she’s shaved half her head then that’s a bit unfair on the bride!


  • Talk about controlling. If she wanted everyone to have long hair she should have said so. Hopefully the bride makes up with her sister before the big day.


  • Talk about being a bridezilla! Now that it going too far, controlling the length of your bridesmaids hair.


  • that is so pathetic and beyond shallow. You can choose dresses and accessories and even how make up is done but quibbling over someone’s personal appearance is a joke and her sister no less! She should be happy that she has her friends and family with her not what they look like.


  • I think that this bride is destined not to enjoy her wedding day. She sounds like she wants everything to be ‘perfect’ and then when she doesn’t get that she’ll be unhappy. Just go with the flow! Although I do have to wonder why the sister went for a big chop right before the wedding. Is she feeling bereft of attention and had to do something about that?


  • I think there is more to this than said
    I get both sides why would the sister get a dramatic change a week before she is bridemaid surly they would have had a hair trial or spoken about hair styles but then it only hair


  • As long as the hairstyle isn’t a ridiculous cut or colour, why does it matter?! Your bridesmaids should be a part of your special day because of who they are and not what they look like.


  • my bridesmaids made a point of checking with me but I didn’t care how they have their hair, we just made allowances at the hair stylist’s on the day


  • Tough decision
    I can understand both sides here, both sisters could’ve communicated better and then there wouldn’t be any dramas


  • Maybe a bit over the top but honestly I think I’d be a bit annoyed too. She could’ve waited another week or perhaps checked with her sister first to see what styles she had planned for the day. I know I would have. I can see it from both points of view.


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