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CARRIE Bickmore says showering with her nine-year-old son Ollie is the “favourite part” of her day.

Carrie, The Project co-host, spoke about her daily habit on the radio with co-host Tommy Little yesterday afternoon.

She has two children: Ollie, with first husband Greg Lange, who died of brain cancer in 2010, and Evie, 1, with her second partner Chris Walker.

“I love a shower and fortunately in my house, in one shower there happens to be a double shower and I often shower with my son Ollie, and he’s nine,” Bickmore told Little.

“And I’m going to say it’s almost one of my favourite times of the day, because it’s very hard to get a boy, to get a son to talk to you. Often they … give you one word answers. ‘How was school? Fine. How are your friends at school? Good.’ But for some reason when we’re in the shower — Ollie has his shower, I have my shower — we just chat and we talk about everything.

“He tells me what’s going on at school, and I love it. It’s such a beautiful time,” Bickmore said.

“It’s not like we’re snuggling under the one. He’s got his space, I’ve got mine and he’s not forced to go into the shower, thankfully. I’m not like, ‘Get in the shower, mum’s coming in too!’”

She said she didn’t realise their bonding time was anything out of the ordinary until she mentioned it to a friend.

“I was talking to my girlfriend the other day and she said to me, ‘You’re going to have to stop that pretty soon,’ and I said, ‘Will I?’ and she said, ‘Yes, he’s nine!’

“And then I said, ‘Oh my God what am I doing? Am I scarring my child?’ And ever since I’ve felt really self-conscious about it. This feels to me completely normal but felt slightly weird to her,” Bickmore said.

“I asked my other girlfriends about it and it’s interesting, because my friends that have daughters around the same age have stopped letting their daughters shower with dads, but the ones that have sons are still showering with their sons and aren’t finding it weird either,” she said.

“There must be a time though … do I stop it before it becomes weird? Do I wait until he says, ‘Nah, I don’t really want to do it anymore Mum.’ Even talking about it makes it sound weird, but when we’re in the moment it couldn’t be less weird and it’s made me really self-conscious.”

As a mum of two boys I can’t say it is something we ever did. I guess it depends on how you were raised, maybe?  We never showered together with mum or dad as kids ourselves either.

Do you think he is too old to be showering with?

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  • no that is too old! i wouldn’t be doing that! they can have their own showers, why not talk over dinner instead

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  • Totally ridiculous backlash. She explained it. What’s wrong with kids seeing you naked, you see them all the time.

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  • i’ve got girls and we have only ever showered together when they were really little, and my husband flat out refused to have them shower with him – (I think he did it once because one of them was sick and I couldn’t do it)

    I think as long as Carrie is aware at some point it needs to stop and they talk about why it has to stop so he understand. I love though that they found a place/time to chat when he feels comfortable to chat about his feelings etc. – It’s hard with kids that age :(

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  • I wouldn’t want a 9 y.o. boy in the shower with me because that is my “private me time” space. They need to talk about it before they stop the habit or the boy is going to feel rejected. During the conversation she could tell him that at some point he isn’t going to want to share the shower with him and let him make the decision of his own accord.

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  • I’d probably feel this is inappropriate, but she’s not really doing anything wrong if they’re all cool with it.

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