CARRIE Bickmore says showering with her nine-year-old son Ollie is the “favourite part” of her day.
Carrie, The Project co-host, spoke about her daily habit on the radio with co-host Tommy Little yesterday afternoon.
She has two children: Ollie, with first husband Greg Lange, who died of brain cancer in 2010, and Evie, 1, with her second partner Chris Walker.
“I love a shower and fortunately in my house, in one shower there happens to be a double shower and I often shower with my son Ollie, and he’s nine,” Bickmore told Little.
“And I’m going to say it’s almost one of my favourite times of the day, because it’s very hard to get a boy, to get a son to talk to you. Often they … give you one word answers. ‘How was school? Fine. How are your friends at school? Good.’ But for some reason when we’re in the shower — Ollie has his shower, I have my shower — we just chat and we talk about everything.
“He tells me what’s going on at school, and I love it. It’s such a beautiful time,” Bickmore said.
“It’s not like we’re snuggling under the one. He’s got his space, I’ve got mine and he’s not forced to go into the shower, thankfully. I’m not like, ‘Get in the shower, mum’s coming in too!’”
She said she didn’t realise their bonding time was anything out of the ordinary until she mentioned it to a friend.
“I was talking to my girlfriend the other day and she said to me, ‘You’re going to have to stop that pretty soon,’ and I said, ‘Will I?’ and she said, ‘Yes, he’s nine!’
“And then I said, ‘Oh my God what am I doing? Am I scarring my child?’ And ever since I’ve felt really self-conscious about it. This feels to me completely normal but felt slightly weird to her,” Bickmore said.
“I asked my other girlfriends about it and it’s interesting, because my friends that have daughters around the same age have stopped letting their daughters shower with dads, but the ones that have sons are still showering with their sons and aren’t finding it weird either,” she said.
“There must be a time though … do I stop it before it becomes weird? Do I wait until he says, ‘Nah, I don’t really want to do it anymore Mum.’ Even talking about it makes it sound weird, but when we’re in the moment it couldn’t be less weird and it’s made me really self-conscious.”
As a mum of two boys I can’t say it is something we ever did. I guess it depends on how you were raised, maybe? We never showered together with mum or dad as kids ourselves either.
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