A new dad says he can’t understand why his girlfriend won’t speak to him after he admitted to her that he thinks their newborn ‘ugly’.

The 22-year-old father says his girlfriend just gave birth to their daughter, and says she wasn’t exactly the prettiest baby in the world.

“The baby was ugly, to be perfectly candid,” he said on reddit. “She’s mine, and I love her, but she was NOT a pretty baby.”

The new dad then decided to do something against most people’s better judgement – he told his girlfriend.

“My girlfriend and I were casually chatting before bed and I brought this up, telling her our daughter wasn’t exactly easy on the eyes. She was upset, which I find odd. I didn’t mean to hurt her feelings, I was just telling her how I felt about our kid.

“Truth be told, the baby is interracial (half Han Chinese, half Punjabi), so it was always a possibility that a potential child would be kinda goofy looking. I don’t think she had to be offended. Not every child can be cute.”

‘She hasn’t spoken to me since’

But she was offended. So much so that she hasn’t spoken to her boyfriend since, and now he doesn’t know what to do.

“I didn’t straight up say our child was ugly, it more like, ‘Hoping she grows into her face, she isn’t exactly winning any beauty pageants right now,’ and the chuckling after. It was said jokingly, I didn’t think it was going to offend her.”

What do you think this new dad should do? Let us know in the comments below.

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  • Well it depends on each person. There is no definition of ugly to be honest. And does it matter? I used to say the same about all babies, now I just don’t even bother as who cares and who defines ‘ugly’?


  • Ha ha when I am looking at my kids photos as a newborns omg they been so ugly and so beautiful as well.


  • Too funny, too funny


  • I personally don’t find any newborn babies cute and feel that once they are a few weeks old and a big fatter they all look a bit more human like and less alien


  • It’s not a nice thing to say, maybe not a good time either when her hormones would be wild.


  • Haha he is definitely brave! But in truth not all babies are born cute and yes some are ugly. I wouldn’t hold it against him.


  • I think he now realises these are things you may think but should never say aloud, especially to the Mother even if she is his girlfriend. I’d like to think he said it as a nervous reaction to realising he’s now a Dad. Not sure how he’s going to grovel his way out of this one.


  • Oh My God. Most newborns have scrunched up wrinkly faces… they will grow into it fairly quickly. Whilst he may have thought it, he definitely shouldn’t have voiced it out loud. Who knows, perhaps he was a very ugly baby. Imagine that?


  • This new Dad needs to do some major grovelling.


  • Not something you say to a new Mum especially about your own child.


  • I think unless Mum herself has made these comments then Dad should have kept his thoughts to himself. I used to joke that one of my babies looked like a grumpy old man and for 3 months he really did but he grew out of it.


  • so brutally honest!


  • Never admit this to a new mother haha he screwed up hahaha my gosh


  • Everyone will always say a newborn is beautiful even when they look like a little Alien. I think maybe you should not have voiced it even though you thought it.


  • Not all mum can take a joke that soon after birth and many can be quite defensive about the beauty of their eye ;)


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