Brad Kearns from DaDMuM first went viral when he shared what it is like to be the mum. “You know when your wife always says “I wish I could be the dad” and you’re like … It’s the same thing…”
Brad was thrown into the world of DaDMuM life when his wife was laid up in hospital and he was left in charge of the kids. He soon realised he would much rather be the dad.
Brad has shared a few posts since, and one thing he has noticed is the “perfect parent army” who always have to slam someone.
What Brad wants to remind everyone is that “nothing these people can say will change how I am going to live or parent. And it shouldn’t change your opinions of what you’re doing either.”
DaDMuM 8.0 – “The Perfect Parent Army”
Today I wanted to talk about the most annoying organisation on earth. It’s the organisation where membership is in the masses and it comes at the very low price of “socially awkward”, “Facebook reject” and “I am a great parent because I tell myself I am”
I would like to shed some light on what I will now be referring to as The PPA. Yes my friends this is the Perfect Parent Army. They are all around us. They are everywhere. I once saw a David Attenborough special on them…”aaaah and here is the Perfect Parent, it looks smells and sounds like the other parents, however when placed in a social environment it’s shit will no longer stink and it will begin ignoring its young in order to watch how the others raise their young. As soon as its young is old enough to leave the nest, it will likely disassociate itself from the family as a means of finding social acceptance and experiencing life” Okay so that was a bit extreme…. But you get my drift right?
Have you ever had a moment when you may have shared, or over-shared an experience as a parent? Or a moment where you may have been in a crappy situation where you had to do something out of the ordinary with the kids … Chances are you were minding your own business and getting on with your life when someone decided to stick their nose in. And in that moment you questioned your parenting actions for the first time?
Well you my friend have encountered a member of the PPA. These are the people who lurk in the bowels of social media, commenting on 3 day old posts and replying by tagging your name, they are over represented in the P&C committee in schools and sporting clubs, probably ignored by their partners so choose to live vicariously through their children and spotless homes. These are the people who will judge you for running bare-foot into Coles at 7pm with a toddler and who shun most brands of baby products because of their firm beliefs in diet, health and safety for children. Yet are somehow the same people who will tell you it’s ludicrous to spend decent money on a pram because they raised 10 of their kids in a K-Mart special.
There is no economical link to this condition however clear links have been made between the parents membership in the PPA and their own insecurities as parents.
Well nevertheless, these are the people who will keep the rest of us honest. Because as they so often tell us, they have a wealth of experience and have all of their shit sorted which is why they have time to pry into the lives of those who are having a go. Well recently, if you have been reading a few of my posts you will see that I have been getting slammed by some of these “Perfect Parents”. And to that I say ‘bring it’. Because nothing these people can say will change how I am going to live or parent. And it shouldn’t change your opinions of what you’re doing either.
Because you’re doing pretty damn good to me! Let them watch from their ivory towers while we ride the wave of shit, vomit and floors that could do with another vacuuming! #parentyourownkids”
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