Baby gender reveals are usually things of joy. A time for families to celebrate a new life, and everyone to have a friendly wager on team pink or team blue. But one dad desperate for a son has lied to his entire family.
A first time mum, aged 29, says her 31-year-old husband has announced to everyone on social media that they’re having a boy, even though they know they’re having a girl. And it’s caused a rift between the couple.
The mum-to-be explained on reddit that the couple are planning on having three children, and this is their first baby. Exciting times, right?! But she says that ever since finding out they were expecting, her husband has been saying he wants their first child to be a boy.
“I don’t know why,” she says. “He never cared in the past and is the type who treat everyone equally. But his reason was that he was the first child (boy) in the family and so it’d be lovely if we ‘followed the tradition’. I didn’t take it seriously because honestly that’s ridiculous but harmless so why not let him just express his wishes.”
Later on, the woman discovered that her husband was telling his family that he was 100 percent certain they are having a boy. “He kept saying the same thing over and over. I had to tell him to slow down because even if he didn’t know he was going over the top, he was still giving the family false hopes. He promised to stop but still says he had a strong hunch and that I’ll see that he was right all along.”
The couple has since found out the baby is a girl. The expecting mum said her husband seemed a little upset, and even questioned the ultrasound result.
“Anyway we got home and he stayed on his phone for hours. In the evening I started getting calls from family congratulating us for the ” baby boy’. I felt confused. I asked my MIL how she found out and she said my husband made the announcement on his Facebook. I was upset I checked his page with my phone and saw it.”
The woman wanted to talk to him about the lie, but first made her own Facebook announcement. She revealed the baby is a girl, and also called out her husband for lying to his entire family.
“He apparently saw it instantly and came into the room looking angry asking what I was doing. I asked why he lied to his family about our baby’s gender he said it was just a ‘temporary lie’ until he could slowly get them to think it’ll be a girl. I said this was illogical and unfair for our daughter.
“His phone rang and he freaked out demanding I take the post down because his family are beginning to see it and are calling. I refused and he got more p****d saying we should be discussing this privately not calling each other out on social media for everyone to see.”
The entire situation came to a head with both husband and wife demanding the other take down their Facebook post. Now the mum-to-be is wondering who is in the wrong.
“He told me to take it down but not until he takes his down which he called petty and passive aggressive. Then he stormed off saying he won’t be answering anyone’s calls after I sent them to harass him with what I posted on my Facebook. Instead of talking to him privately.”
Do you think this expecting mum is justified in her actions?