Baby gender reveals are usually things of joy. A time for families to celebrate a new life, and everyone to have a friendly wager on team pink or team blue. But one dad desperate for a son has lied to his entire family.

A first time mum, aged 29, says her 31-year-old husband has announced to everyone on social media that they’re having a boy, even though they know they’re having a girl. And it’s caused a rift between the couple.

The mum-to-be explained on reddit that the couple are planning on having three children, and this is their first baby. Exciting times, right?! But she says that ever since finding out they were expecting, her husband has been saying he wants their first child to be a boy.

“I don’t know why,” she says. “He never cared in the past and is the type who treat everyone equally. But his reason was that he was the first child (boy) in the family and so it’d be lovely if we ‘followed the tradition’. I didn’t take it seriously because honestly that’s ridiculous but harmless so why not let him just express his wishes.”

Later on, the woman discovered that her husband was telling his family that he was 100 percent certain they are having a boy. “He kept saying the same thing over and over. I had to tell him to slow down because even if he didn’t know he was going over the top, he was still giving the family false hopes. He promised to stop but still says he had a strong hunch and that I’ll see that he was right all along.”

The couple has since found out the baby is a girl. The expecting mum said her husband seemed a little upset, and even questioned the ultrasound result.

“Anyway we got home and he stayed on his phone for hours. In the evening I started getting calls from family congratulating us for the ” baby boy’. I felt confused. I asked my MIL how she found out and she said my husband made the announcement on his Facebook. I was upset I checked his page with my phone and saw it.”

The woman wanted to talk to him about the lie, but first made her own Facebook announcement. She revealed the baby is a girl, and also called out her husband for lying to his entire family.

“He apparently saw it instantly and came into the room looking angry asking what I was doing. I asked why he lied to his family about our baby’s gender he said it was just a ‘temporary lie’ until he could slowly get them to think it’ll be a girl. I said this was illogical and unfair for our daughter.

“His phone rang and he freaked out demanding I take the post down because his family are beginning to see it and are calling. I refused and he got more p****d saying we should be discussing this privately not calling each other out on social media for everyone to see.”

The entire situation came to a head with both husband and wife demanding the other take down their Facebook post. Now the mum-to-be is wondering who is in the wrong.

“He told me to take it down but not until he takes his down which he called petty and passive aggressive. Then he stormed off saying he won’t be answering anyone’s calls after I sent them to harass him with what I posted on my Facebook. Instead of talking to him privately.”

Do you think this expecting mum is justified in her actions?

  • I can’t believe he would do that when he knew they were definitely having a girl. It’s one thing to tell people he has a hunch or gut feeling but to blatantly lie about it makes me wonder about him. I agree with her and hope their daughter never finds out about this.


  • That is a weird thing to do. I think they should have called out their husband to their face, but in reality it is easier to do it on fbook.


  • That just does not make sense! He knows its a girl but is telling everyone it’s a boy…….he must realise his lie will eventually be exposed? All those people buying blue for a girl. Strange man :/


  • I feel sorry for the baby.


  • I think the expecting mother is in the right for wanting to be honest about the sex of their baby..

    • Also super strange that you would want to purposefully tell people the wrong sex, that’s just setting the kid up to get a wardrobe of dinosaur clothing


  • ‘Followed the tradition’, I am sorry, but I think it is somewhat difficult to follow the tradition of 1st son requesting 1 son. You have what you are given, and appreciate it. He shouldn’t go telling people it’s a boy when he clearly knows it is not. Sad really!


  • This couple needs some help in managing their expectations and communication. They will struggle as parents if they can’t get on the same side of this relatively minor hurdle.


  • Oh no, what a terrible situation to be in. It doesn’t make sense why he would lie like that? I hope he comes around and accepts his daughter when she is born. Not looking good for the couple already though.


  • The birth of the child will settle the issue!


  • Just wow.


  • Seriously? Want a healthy baby people? This is just a nonsensical situation. And to lie about a gender, is just ridiculous. It will lead to shock and disappointment when the baby is born instead of excitement.

    • This situation does seem sad and you are quite right – a healthy baby is always the most important issue.


  • I believe the actions of both parties are a bit questionable.
    It was a bit silly for the husband to lie in a social media post once they found out that they were having a girl…that is probably never going to end well. But what it more worrying is his disappointment that it is a girl. I hope over the course of the pregnancy he can find a way to overcome this is and when the precious little girl arrives he is overjoyed.
    Before responding on Facebook the Mum to be should have spoken to her husband about the lie. Social media is not the place to be starting an argument with anyone.
    Hopefully the couple can move past this and focus on the beautiful life they are going to bring into the world


  • I don’t get why he would lie. When the baby is born it’s clearly going to be a girl so why lie about it. Especially if his family are going out buying all of these boy themed clothes, toys etc.
    I think the wife was right to ask him to take the post down as lies get bigger and bigger with time and it’ll be hard to undo it all.


  • I’d be upset if my husband did that. I think it is childish of him and hurtful to his wife.

    • I’m concerned about his feelings for his daughter as well when he so desires to have a boy !


  • This all seems very strange. Why would you need to lie to family and friends and give them time “to get used to it”? It’s going to be a boy or a girl, get used to it.


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