A teenager who is still dealing with the shock of her dad’s infidelity says she’s being labelled ‘immature’ for not wanting to accept his ‘affair baby’ as a sibling.

The 16-year-old girl says she’s always had a close relationship with her mum, who is 40, calling her a ‘truly amazing woman’. The teen said a year ago she found out her 42-year-old father was having an affair with a 26-year-old.

“She is only 10 years older than me. Her and I have less of an age gap than my dad and her have,” she explained on reddit.

“My mum, even though she was upset, she has never trash talked my dad. I am so upset though it would have been one thing for him to ask for a divorce instead he cheated with someone much younger than him.”

She explained that her dad and his new partner moved two hours away, and in the year that’s passed, she only seem him a handful of times.

“I act pleasant when I see them, but things are awkward and my dad and I’s relationship is clearly strained.

“So my dad’s affair is pregnant. He called me yesterday and asking if I wanted to go to the gender reveal party next weekend.”

“I told him no. He asked why I said I didn’t want to talk about it. He kept pushing me going saying how the baby will be my little sibling.

“I got annoyed and went off. I told him how it would have been one thing for him to get a divorce from mum but you didn’t have the guts for that so instead you have an affair. So no I’m not going to accept your little affair baby as a sibling. He called me an immature brat. He later texted my mum complaining about how immature I am and how I need to grow up and accept that (his mistress name) and the baby is going to be part of my family. Am I the a**hole?”

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  • Wow I think its wrong


  • The only immature one here that I can see is the father (if you can call him that). I’m sure it would have hurt but been easier if he’d divorced first before finding someone else. Why should she have to go to the gender reveal party if she doesn’t want to.


  • Why isn’t the 16 year old allowed to have an opinion and voice it?


  • I think it’s about time the father grew up and acted his age. You have every right to do as you think fit and not go if you don’t want to.


  • A gender reveal is not about the baby. It’s all about the parents. Tell your Dad you’ll be there for Bub when he/she arrives, in the meantime tell him you won’t be playing happy families until he works on repairing the damage he’s already caused his child.


  • I wouldnt be able to accept this either. I think its going to be a personal choice for everyone on weather you accept them as a sibling or not. The fact he had an affair and has a baby out of it means that he had no consideration of the family he had so why should they be considerate now of his situation.


  • This is a hard situation for anyone let alone a teenager.


  • Totally understand if not ready to accept and adjust to everything that has happened. It’s going to take a lot of time and forgiveness before one would be okay to be involved in this half family.


  • I can totally relate to this story in some ways. My Dad had an affair rather than leave my Mum and it seriously impacted my life from the age of 14 when I found out until my Dad passed 12 years later. This young girl should not be made to accept this new life of her Dad’s or the baby. She is entitled to her feelings and given time, in her own time she may change her views. Let her have this space.


  • If she doesn’t want to go that it. It’s not immature, for her to feel as she does, it’s understandable.


  • That is a lot to go through for a young girl. She will feel differently about her half sibling when she or he arrives (I hope). She shouldn’t be made to go to the gender reveal. Her dad is very selfish and I think he is the immature one.


  • That is some bug news the poor girl has had to take in, she has every right to be angry and refuse to go to the baby reveal. Over time thing may change for her, but right now she is hurting and needs to be supported not called immature. Stick to you guns gorgeous girl.


  • She has been so hurt by the affair and now the pending baby. I feel he has a nerve to even ask, let alone think she will go. He needs to stop been so selfish. Good on her for standing up to her true beliefs. Very mature for her age. Also her Mother is a great example for her.


  • Her anger is understandable, her dad ruined her family. But that is no fault of the baby. I feel there may be a time when the poster wants to get to know her little brother or sister. And i can’t help but feel sorry for the baby, not even born yet and has someone hating it. And how sad, that when old enough to ask why my big sister doesn’t want anything to do with me, it’s because of circumstances surrounding his/her existence. The dad is pretty much the only a$$hole in all this. I can’t say if she should attend the gender reveal or not, but I strongly suggest not hating the baby or calling it an affair baby. That’s just sad


  • By no means are you the a$$hole here. You are entitled to feel betrayed yourself, this just hasn’t affected your mum but it’s affected you too. You are apart of everything that has happened, therefore are entitled to the way you feel


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