A woman who is just weeks away from giving birth is fuming after her baby’s unique name was ‘stolen’ by her brother and sister-in-law.

The 26-year-old first-time-mum is expecting a baby boy with her 26-year old husband, and she’s been planning her little one’s name for some time.

“My husband has been watching a Japanese animated show called Hunterxhunter,” she explained. “He often watches while I cook, so I was also watching a little bit with him. There was character in the show called Illumi and I really loved name and wanted it for my son, but my husband told me I can’t name our son after a character from his show.

“We had a little bit of a disagreement, but compromised and decided to name him Lumy. Which has a Norse origin and means light bringer. I loved it even more that what I was going to call him before and told my family what name we were going to give our baby. My mother thought it was lovely name and told me it was way better than the first one. I wanted to paint his name on the wall in his nursery, but after writing his name down several times. I decided that I wanted to have an I in his name instead of the Y. Thus his name was now Lumi. I got his name put on the wall, on his clothes and have already informed the company that will be making our birth announcement cards about his name.”

‘Sorry, we gave him your baby name’

Five days ago the woman’s brother and sister-in-law had their first baby. While had been expecting a girl, the little bundle of joy was in fact a boy.

“My brother sent a picture in the family group chat and I asked what his name was, but he didn’t reply back. Two days ago we went to visit my brother and gift them some baby clothes. When we entered their house, we saw balloons with Lumy on them. I asked my brother what was the meaning of this? He told me he was really sorry, they didn’t have a name for him, so they gave him my baby name. (He said) that it wasn’t that big of a deal, because we have plenty of time to find a new name for our son.”

The revelation sent the woman, who is 34-weeks-pregnant, into a rage.

“I burst into tears after he said that it wasn’t a big deal. I screamed at him and his wife. I told him some nasty things, that he wasn’t my brother anymore and to never contact me again. I left and took the gift basket with me.

“My family doesn’t think it’s that big of a deal, because it’s just a name. (They say ) I’m overreacting and shouldn’t have screamed those things at my brother. Everyone is mad at me for getting upset over a name, except my sister who completely understands what I’m going through now. Am I the a**hole?”

What do you think of the sticky situation? Who is in the wrong? Let us know in the comments below. 

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  • So wrong…this is why we didn’t share our name with anyone.


  • That is so wrong!! Just because he didn’t have a boy’s name picked didn’t mean that they couldnt think of their own!!!


  • What a low blow. No need to copy they should of got their own name


  • Your brother is the a-hole! This is terrible but I think you should just give your son the name anyway


  • You are not the a hole. You had shared the name, your love of it and every intention to use it. It had special meaning to you. Unfortunately some people just can’t think for themselves. I admittedly used a name a friends cousin had used but long after I had anything to do with the extended family, I barely had contact with my friend. I tried everything else. He was nameless for three days while I tried to find a fit. I think my friend was a little miffed but I hadn’t even seen the child for at least six years at that point and still haven’t since. We weren’t family, we weren’t going to overlap. My sons name suits him perfectly. My daughter chose her own name. I had three I liked and mentioned each one until I got a reaction and funnily enough it was the name I had chosen years before I even thought I’d have another child


  • You are not overreacting as your brother and sister-in-law knew what you had done. You already had his name put on clothes, on the nursery wall which they would have known. The only ones in the wrong are your brother and his wife and most of your family for not being supportive of you.


  • This is not right ???? very very unfair ???? gives me a lesson to keep baby names hidden unless they are finally named at their birth


  • It’s why you don’t tell anybody. Her brother is an a-hole. His reason for naming their son the same is totally insensitive and wrong. It is a big deal. I totally support her reaction.


  • I didn’t tell anyone our chosen baby names, that’s the safest way. I also had a couple of back ups….just in case. My sister had to rethink her 2nd daughters name after a ‘friend’ claimed her first choice for her 2nd daughter


  • This is why you keep it to yourself!


  • That is horrible, but it does happen quite a lot. I think this is the reason many choose not to tell anyone the name they’ve chosen. If it was “just a name” they couple could have done a random name generator on the internet and gone with that. But no, they selfishly chose to use a name that had meaning to someone else.


  • It’s not the name it’s the action. Sounds like the brother is a spoilt brat and the rest of the family is used to letting him have his way. She does need to think of another name though because otherwise the resent, hate and bitterness will just build. Send the brother a bill for the cost of repainting etc.


  • Who are these people? That’s horrible. Unfortunately people can be very thoughtless.


  • I would make your brother change his sons name it is not like he knows its his name at such a young age. You get 8 weeks to register a name it’s not like they didn’t have time to think of one. The family are also being unrealistic in thinking you should be ok with your brother stealing a unique name that you have thought of and shared with them that you are going to use. I would still name your child the name and spell it how you want, your brother is the one who will look stupid here as he is the one who took it and everyone will know the story. Or if as you said you don’t want him to contact/see you again it won’t matter they have the same name (the last name will be different)


  • Can feel your pain. My SIL’s children called one of their children the same name as my son’s son and he wouldn’t change his mind no matter how much she remonstrated with him. The worst thing about it is no instantly knows who is being spoken of and you have to ask who it is. Good job they don’t live too close!


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