The nanny insists she was saving the baby from ‘chemicals’ found in formula…

A US mother has shared her horror in Slate’s advice column ‘Dear Prudence’  after the nanny breastfeeding her daughter when she arrived to pick her up from childcare. The mum says she thought she had found the perfect care for her adopted daughter, with the nanny looking after a number of children in her own home.

Immediate Disapproval

The mum said that everything had been going smoothly until she made the discovery, with one notable exception. After disclosing to the nanny that she fed her daughter with formula, the mum says she was met with immediate disapproval. “You feed her that slop?” the nanny allegedly asked, but the mum admits she brushed it off and thought no more of it, despite initially being taken aback by the question. “I ignored the barb (I’m used to it), gave a quick rundown and went on my way,” she said. On the day in question, the mum says she got off work earlier than usual and went to collect her daughter, arriving at the daycare before the scheduled pick up time.

Completely Unacceptable

The mum says she let herself into the house through the side entrance used by parents and saw the woman breastfeeding her baby daughter. “When I got to the area of the house where my daughter was, I about fell over. The day care provider was NURSING MY BABY!” she said. “I marched over, took the baby from her arms, and asked her if she was crazy.”

The potential dangers of sharing breast milk are well documented including infection and nutritional imbalance, not to mention the emotional attachment associated with it, so we can completely understand where this mum is coming from – this nanny definitely crossed the line!

Have you had a bad childcare experience? Share your story in the comments.

  • How could the nanny judge her for not breastfeeding when her daughter was adopted? She couldn’t! I’d be furious if I found someone else feeding my child with their personal milk with who knows what in it.


  • Some people have such nerve to do such a thing. Why are mums judged so much for formula feeding their babies. Formula theses days is made so well with the exception of China of course.


  • Talk about taking liberties and crossing boundaries. Whether she agreed with the child being bottle fed or not, it is not the nanny’s decision to make.


  • Wow! That is so not okay. The boundaries have definitely been crossed and this is not okay or acceptable behaviour.


  • Oh my goodness, that’s shocking.


  • Disgraceful. She had no right to do that with getting the mother’s permission.


  • I would be very weirded out by this feeding is a very personal and private thing and I think it’s weird ther carer even wanted to.


  • I’m sorry, nutritional imbalance???, it’s breast milk. Breast is best, do you think formula is balanced?? It’s the best someone can do when they can’t breast feed, it should by no means be someone’s first choice. I think the mother was insane, be grateful she cared enough to feed your child something decent. Yes a nanny breast feeding a child is crazy, but someone slaughtering their child is perfectly normal. Welcome to Topsy Turvy world!!!


  • Many wet nurses used to used in days gone past – of course that was before the gay brigades and the HIV problems. I guess you’d have to think twice now.


  • I do agree the nanny was wrong in her doing and yes the mum has no idea of this women’s health but way back there were wet nurses and even when my daughter was born 37.5 yrs ago the nurses would ask mums for their excess milk for other struggling mums/bubs.

    • The hospitals were able to have excess breast milk tested before using it. At least I do know one hospital did that.


  • So very wrong!


  • What infection can you get from the breastmilk?

    • Exactly what I’m thinking, sounds made up to me, anything to fool the public into thinking formula is fine , and all a child needs. In times past it was an emergency solution to a dangerous problem, now some people just reach for it because some can’t be bothered breast feeding


  • Oh dear what was the nanny thinking very shocking


  • Oh wow! Was this her way to show disapproval for the use of formula? She can’t do that. I would have been very upset too!


  • Totally unacceptable!!!


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