It sounds like she’s a jnmil (just no mother-in-law), which means she will manipulate every situation to try to get her own way, if your husband doesn’t start to grow a spine, she could cause many problems in the marriage. So you have to tell her now, that she has no right to interfere, and get your husband to realise that he is married to you, not his mother, and it’s up to the both of you to make decisions about your family, not her. If he is not going to stand by you over something like this, when you had both agreed, what else is he going to let her get away with, and how is that going to impact on your marriage. Also, tell your husband how hurt you are that he could do something like that to you, that you two are a team that his mother is not a part of, and that if wants the marriage to last, he had better start acting like he is there for you.
Published 8th April 2020