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A dad has shared the horror story detailing how his wife abandoned their son in the middle of a busy road with traffic speeding towards the boy.

The man posted on Reddit that he was frozen in shock and furious when the mum of his child left the little boy, Jacob, in the path of moving cars during a heavy storm.

Was She Really To Blame?

The father was seeking advice on whether his reaction was justified. Surprisingly, many of those who responded actually sided with the mother, saying that she wasn’t actually at fault.

The concerned dad explained the story further.

What Happened

“Last weekend, my wife Emily, our son Jacob, and I were walking home in heavy rain from the park,” he wrote.

“Emily was crossing the street holding Jacob’s hand and I was walking a little back behind them. They were both rushing to get out of the rain and had gotten ahead of me.

“When they were crossing the street, a car came speeding to the intersection much too fast and slammed on their brakes before the red light but hydroplaned in a deep puddle.

Abandoned!

“And I watched in horror as my wife literally sprinted away, pulling her hand free of Jacob’s. He was frozen in place like a deer in headlights.

“The car got traction and swerved to a stop at the last moment and I ran over to Jacob (who, thank goodness, was unharmed). Emily was a ways away across the street.”

How Could You Do That?

The devastated man confronted his wife later that night.

“I was furious at Emily for running, and I confronted her when we got home and we could talk privately,” he said.

“She started crying and saying she was terrified because her friend in college had been in a bad hit and run and she just panicked and ran.

“I said that I was terrified for Jacob too, how could she run and literally yank her hand away from him? She just kept saying she was so scared she wasn’t thinking, and I was saying that I don’t care how scary something is, my first instinct was to protect my son.”

The father added that his wife then stormed out of their house and refuses to talk further about the incident.

“I want to talk stuff through, like honestly this has made me worried about leaving our son in her care alone, knowing she will put herself first to the point of leaving him in danger,” he said.

Out Of Her Control

Many commenters leaped to the defense of the mum.

“No-one knows what they’ll do in a situation like that. It’s a tough one.”

“She acted on instinct and is clearly remorseful, I would give her a break,” said another.

Although there were many that agreed with his fury.

“I would be so angry if I were you, you should always put your child first,” one commenter said.

Do you think the dad had a right to be angry that his wife abandoned his child in the street or is her explanation a justifiable excuse for her behaviour? Tell us in the comments below.

  • I think I would put my child/children’s safety first but I am not in that position. I know that some instincts just happen before you can rationally think them through though. So I wouldn’t be judging either of this couple – but would advise that they see someone to mediate the position otherwise their marriage will not be in a good place and then their son will suffer even more.

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  • How can he base leaving the child alone in her care after one incident that was totally out of the ordinary?

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  • Either way I don’t think there is anyone that comment until you’re in that situation. Poor woman and poor child.

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  • I truly believe none of us can say what we’d do in a situation like that if we had the history of this mother,i really don’t think that this one thing should define her role as a parent or the love she has for her child and for the father to take such stance and publicly shame her is so wrong. We all want to be the perfect protective parent but it doesn’t always happen that way ..

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  • I’m shocked about what i have just read. As a mother I always put my child’s needs first. But i understand that in the moment, her fight response responded quickly and irrationally.

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  • As a mother I can always say I put myself last, my safety included. I would always do anything and everything I can to keep my babies safe. I would be furious if my husband did something like this with our kids…

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  • It was a reflex action. And she feels remorseful. I always say, in spite of the best intentions and training, you never know how you will react in a traumatic situation. You like to think you know, but instinct takes over. I think she gets it. I think the Dad is a little over the top. She’s obviously raised her son to a reasonable age already. Maybe a little empathy for what she felt.

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  • I understand where this Mum is coming from because a similar thing happened to me. My late husband, our 2 year old son and I were walking along a footpath when a dog jumped over the fence and came at us. I was a short way behind my husband holding onto my son’s hand. I actually pulled my son in front of me while facing the charging dog. Thankfully the dog jumped back over the fence and my husband berated me for putting my safety first. I can honestly say I don’t know what made me do that but I felt ashamed of myself for a long time after. I think this Mum feels mortified by what she did without the husband going off. At the same time I can understand where the Dad is coming from but he needs to talk to his wife in a calm voice and not an accusatory one. I’m sure the Mum would have reacted the same if the roles had been reversed and it was the Dad who’d rushed off the road and left their son behind.

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  • Do NOT judge this mum. This was an instinctive reaction and she would not have even known she had done it. I have seen it several times in my career. She was of course mortified.

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  • This is really hard.

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  • The mum clearly said that she was so scared and that she wasn’t thinking. The fury of the dad causes her to shut down and she doesn’t want to talk about the incident, not strange when there is little place for our emotions. We can’t always explain our instincts and emotions, but when we can’t listen to each other it becomes even harder to express them.

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  • More caution and responsibility should have been applied. T.hank God the young lad was not injured. I wonder what the boy thinks about what his mother did to him? Has anyone bothered to ask him how he felt and dealt with the situation?

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  • I can see both sides and things like that people deal with these things differently
    Firstly why cross on a busy road in the first place in the pouring rain


    • yes that’s a good question. Maybe they were already out and then it started to pour ?

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  • I would be pissed. As a mother, auntie, friend I would always protect the children in my care.

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  • Everyone reacts differently so I can’t really judge her. Me personally would put my child first. Would never leave them in the middle of the road. I would literally dive In front of my child to protect them from harm.
    I am sure your wife I will live with the guilt of abandoning her son for the rest of her life. No need to punish her further

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