Mum explains why it is important we put our partners first before the kids.
Lori Lim is a Women’s holistic counsellor, kinesiologist and mother and explains why she believes you should put your partner first. She actually shares some great points. Even though, I for one, know it’s not something I would consider. It does make a lot of sense.
She explains, “Yes this is shocking and rather confronting to read. But as parents we need to hear it.”
Lori is a strong believer in, “Your children joined your partnership, not the other way around.”
Be A Role Model
Lori continues: Your relationship with your partner will be the model through which your children perceive relationships and intimacy, “As parents, the way you handle conflict and stress as a couple and within the family unit serves as a powerful role model, which a child will replicate when they step into the world.”
Your children will one day leave the nest and you will be left alone with your partner, Lori makes a strong argument here, “If you don’t invest daily with your partner, eventually you will be left with an empty home. You will find yourself living with a partner who you feel you no longer know, leaving you both to rebuild from square one. ”
Answering the age old question, “How can you invest in your husband when you’re both so exhausted from the never-ending demands of raising a family?” Lori writes, If you noticed you were driving your car one day and it was running low on petrol, would you keep driving for days or would you pull over and fill it up? I’m guessing you’d make a stop at the servo, no matter how tired or busy you were, because you know the consequences are you’ll break down somewhere on the side of the road with no petrol. That becomes a non-negotiable priority for you.
Unfortunately, it’s harder to see the supplies of our relationships are dwindling — we can live in denial and hope we don’t ‘crash and burn’. But until we make our relationship a priority, we are skating on thin ice.”
Marriage First, Child Second
International TV personality, Giuliana Rancic confessed in an interview with Us Weekly magazine that she puts ‘Marriage First, Child Second’
Giuliana said, “We’re husband and wife, but we’re also best friends, and it’s funny because a lot of people, when they have kids, they put the baby first, and the marriage second,” Rancic told US Weekly. “That works for some people. For us, I find, we put our marriage first and our child second, because the best thing we can do for him is have a strong marriage.”
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