Virginian mum, Angel Camden, shared a post on Facebook on a clever technique she was using to try and be more patient with her children.

Her post has gone VIRAL with over 41,000 shares.

She shared on her Facebook profile, “Today, I tried something new.

Something that required me to exercise patience with my oh so testy 4 year old.

I wore 5 rubber bands on my wrist from the time I got up, to the time I tucked him in just now.

The 5 rubber bands represent every time you lose your cool or say something unkind to your child. Every time that happens, you move one band to the other wrist.

To “gain the band back”, you must do 5 kind/positive things with your child (dance party, singing a song together, reading together, etc). I read that science shows for every bad reaction, it takes 5 POSITIVE reactions to regain a positive relationship.

I’m going to be using this method until it becomes a habit and basically turns into an auto pilot ritual.

I’ve found myself so incredibly stressed out, I beat my head against the wall daily because I don’t understand why my 4 year old insists on being disrespectful and a non listener. I was to the point of crying at least every other day.

I have finished the day with all 5 bands on the original wrist. I’m very proud of myself for exercising patience with him.

I know it’s only day 1 but I’m hopeful this will help our communication skills and our relationship. If you find yourself being that “Angry Mum”, try this!”

What an awesome idea! Will you be giving it a try? OR do you have another method of your own you would like to share with us?

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  • she has a good idea and hopefully her family will benefit


  • What a clever strategy!


  • Great Idea. I will try it as I also have a very testy 4yo .


  • Great idea !! It’s proven indeed that for every unkind/critical comment a multiple of positive comments or actions need to be made to bring the negative effects of your comments back in balance.


  • Isn’t it dangerous to wear hair bands / rubber bands on your wrist?

    • Yes, it is dangerous to wear hair bands on your wrists. There has been a few warnings about the risks associated with doing that, even more dangerous are the metallic ones. In fact I think the warning may have been on MOM.


  • My son took his Woolworths discs to school in the proper case and two were actually stolen out of the case, form his full set. I had to explain to a 7 year old that some people are just mean. The school has now banned them, but I feel really bad for my son, who cried for days because he no longer had the full set. Luckily for us, someone else gave him the ones that were stolen to replace them.


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