If we’re to believe social media, most mums have pristine homes, bathed in a beige aesthetic that somehow remain free of grubby fingerprints and food crumbs. News flash – this isn’t most mums.

And now the messy mums of social media are taking a stand and sharing their ‘real life’ homes, complete with laundry piles, dirty dishes and random, unidentifiable bits of food lurking in every corner. But not everyone is impressed with this new movement.

Normalising messy houses

Now, I’ll admit, I like a tidy house. I vac twice a day, I can’t abide a dirty sink and beds are always made. But I’d never shame anyone who isn’t the same. Life as a mum is BUSY. And at the end of the day, if there’s a choice between finally having a cup of tea and a TV series binge in peace, or doing the dishes, I can totally get not choosing the latter.

Mums are using TikTok to show their ‘normal’ houses, so that other mums who aren’t the queens of clean feel like they’re not alone.

Using this voiceover, created by ItsWendy, mums are sharing clips of their homes: “I just want to show everybody what my house looks like. There are a lot of videos out there with all these houses that are absolutely beautiful, clean, pristine, aesthetic. Well … this is my house. So if your house looks like this, we should be friends.”

@tired_mommax3 It’s been a rough weekend #mostlysahm #messyhouse #normalizethemess #17weekspregnant ♬ original sound – ItsWendy

tired_mommax3, who is pregnant and has three kids under five, shared her home, saying ‘It’s been a rough weekend.’ And opinions became so heated in the comments, that she ended up turning them off. One commenter saying, “So you brag about your house being dirty cuz other people show their houses clean and beautiful? Not a flex.”

@tired_mommax3 Ugh.. and it starts all over again. #mostlysahm #messykitchen???????????? #messymomsquad ♬ original sound – Emily Pickett

The mum responded in another video, saying her house is messy but not dirty, explaining there’s no bugs, dirt or mould. “I show my house messy so that other mums can feel ok about their houses. I don’t do it to brag about having a messy house, I just do it to show that life gets in the way. That video was posted just after my family got Covid. Then we got over Covid and we all had a cold.

“My toddlers aren’t sleeping at night, my husband works full-time during the day, I get zero breaks, I’m freaking 18 weeks pregnant … it’s ok to have a messy house.”

The ‘messy house movement’ has been adopted by hundreds of other mums, using the same voiceover to share the state of their houses.

@brigidlopez My house, reality! Lol #realhouse #notclean #unorganized #welivehere ♬ original sound – ItsWendy

It’s all in the name of sharing the reality of being a mum. Being right in the trenches, just trying to keep little humans alive. Sometimes all we can do is feed, soothe and love our babies, and cleaning isn’t a priority. And that’s perfectly ok.

@nurseginna Mom of 3 life be like ???? #boymom #toddlermom #momtok #momsoftiktok #millennial #sendhelp ♬ original sound – ItsWendy

Do you keep an immaculate or tidy home? Or are you happy to let the mess slide while you’re busy with the kids? Let us know in the comments below.

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  • Definitely gets messy quickly never stress


  • Only because I am cleaning freak and can’t stand mess i keeping it clean…no matter what


  • Its not hard for a house to get messy fast. I was ill for a weekend and somehow our house went to crap. Its called ‘living.’


  • A messy home doesn’t mean a dirty home. A messy home reflects a life well lived. I feel a slight sense of discomfort entering someone’s home that looks perpetually like a showroom Where does the living take place ?


  • Wow this makes me feel happy and relieved. I struggle to keep my house clean with two boys who are tornados.


  • My house is messy and I’m struggling to keep on top of it at the moment – giving me anxiety but good to know I’m not the only one.


  • So I feel better! My house is neither immaculate and definitely not messy, even though I think it is. But in comparison, it’s just right and lived in.


  • I am a clean freak. My house has always and still is spotless. My parents lived with me for 15years after my separation and my Mother was frantic at having a clean house, so I inherited her freak cleanliness trait. I live organising everything and this helps me to balance my day.


  • When my children were little I had cloth nappies I had to soak and wash everyday as there were no disposable nappies for me. I worked hard keeping my house clean if anyone came only messy part was my lounge room as the children would empty the toy box and if visitors came they used to pull all the toys out but it wasn’t dirty dishes were done as I would not of coped with the house getting like the ones shown but I did have a friend that had a dirty home and I wouldn’t eat or drink there the toilet was so bad it stunk and toilet was so dirty and hadn’t been cleaned after a mess was over it. The only take away food bought not often was fish and chips not like the young ones are always buying for the family. I did all the cooking cleaning and looking after my children my husband never lifted a finger and never changed a nappy, so life was very full for me trying to shop with young children and coping with it all was hard. I just think the young ones are lazy as they have more items to make life easier and I don’t understand how they can live in what they are showing. But now I am older I am struggling to keep a tidy house my health isn’t great I’m not wanting to cook like I used to and a lot of times I will make a sandwich for tea and I get depressed over struggling to keep up but I never have a dirty toilet and my clothes are always clean and now I have someone comes in to vacuum and wash my floors.


  • My house has never been immaculate but it has always been clean. Where we live you can’t keep a dust free house for a day. Within an hour of dusting it’s almost as though it’s never been done, things never get put away after use but now I’m over it. If someone turns up and there’s dust or things aren’t put out of sight I don’t care. I’ve realised that if they’re true friends then they’ve come to visit me and not check out my housekeeping. I no longer sweat the small stuff like I used to.


  • My house is always messy, however all my friends houses are always immaculate!


  • clean but often messy.


  • I feel like we should share the mess more often! So easy to hide it on socials and make out that everything is perfect and tidy all the time when it’s not.


  • We get a little bit untidy, but not like this! Even shoes dumped in the middle of the floor give me a nervous twitch! I couldn’t do this!


  • There’s messy then there’s dirty .When you don’t clean at all like that house that’s dirty i would never live like that and i have 4 kids


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