As long as its done proper way and using proper language that 9yo can understand i don’t see a problem with it

This is a good example of how this can be approached at early age

Is a bit early

I think it’s great to teach the son about consent! At some point in the future his girlfriend may say he doesn’t have to keep asking consent to put his arm around her, but as long as he knows he needs consent that’s the most important thing.

I think this was the perfect way to teach your son about what’s right or wrong when approaching a person. Your husband sounds like he has an issue with being called a predator when he was young.

I think you picked a perfect opportunity to bring a discussion on consent into play. Regardless of any history – I have an experience there too – I feel you approached the whole thing brilliantly. If we are not going to teach our boys about consent early on then they have the greater influence of peer groups and social “norms” as they get older, some of whose choices are not the best thought out actions to take.

It does need to be talked about, in a calm way which she did

No it’s not too early to have a conversation, provided it is done carefully and age appropriately.

It needs to be age appropriate, and it does need to be talked about.

Recently my six year old had to apologise to his baby sister. He did so by giving her two kisses, on the chest (she wasn’t wearing a shirt). She had her back to me so I couldn’t tell where he kissed her just that it was on her chest somewhere. I reminded him that at school he is learning about private areas and got him to tell me where they are. He did so. I told him he is never to kiss her, or anyone else there as it’s a private area. He is six and has no clue about these things. It was entirely innocent, him just trying to say sorry but unable to kiss her head as she was thrashing it about. It’s never too early to remind kids about private areas and consent. For the record, my husband also said I made him out to be like a predator. I may have over reacted in the moment and told him to back off and never do it again, but then I calmed down and had the discussion.
When he was around 2 he would sometimes touch my chest out of curiosity, and I would feel a little violated, which is probably why I over reacted in the first instinct, and as a parent it’s our job to 1. Protect our children and 2. Teach them the boundaries. So good on her I say!

I’m trying to get my 4 year old to understand if someone says to stop doing something or that they don’t want to do something then he has to respect their wishes. While in my case it doesn’t apply to anything of a romantic/sexual nature the concept is still the same. No is no. We had one of his friends have a huge meltdown because she didn’t want anyone looking at her and he kept looking at her. In my opinion kids are never too young to be taught boundaries in all situations.

Well done for talking to your son about this topic. Your husband probably just feels like he doesn’t know how to approach the topic himself.

This is needed conversation all be it a hard one to gauge at what age to have.
I thank the mum for taking the initiative to speak to her son.
She’s the mum, and would have k he was mature enough to understand or not

Good on you Mum. I think this was a fantastic teaching moment. Kids learn and role-model their behaviour, so hoping he learns from his Mum and not his Dad!

Consent is important to teach and should be taught from a young age.