For most families, having two pregnancies to announce at the same time would be cause for celebration. But this mum-to-be says her pregnant mother doesn’t want her announcing her pregnancy, because it will take the shine of her ‘miracle’ baby.

The 21-year-old mum-of-one says her 37-year-old mother discovered she was expecting her 10th child just a few weeks ago.

“She announced it towards the end of January and everyone has been happy for her since she was told she couldn’t have anymore kids because it was a health risk for her,” the woman explained on reddit. While everyone is happy for the mum-of-nine, her big news is starting to wear thin.

“She takes every opportunity to let everyone know she is pregnant, like at my dad’s retirement when people were congratulating my dad for retiring from the military, she would change the subject her having a baby. It got old fast, we’re happy for her but she’s taking it too far.”

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Just days ago, the woman says she unexpectedly found out the she and her husband are expecting their own bundle of joy – their second baby.

“This little one was a big surprise because we were told that I wasn’t going to be able to get pregnant again due to the complication from our daughter. We haven’t announced it to everyone just really close family members like my parents and my in laws.”

But when she told her mother, instead of being thrilled that they are expecting at the same time, she was more worried it was going to take the shine off her pregnancy.

“When we told my mother she threw a fit. She began accusing us of trying to take attention off her and her ‘little miracle’. Telling us that we got pregnant just to spite her and that we shouldn’t say anything about us being pregnant to anyone until her baby is born. Which is a month before we’re due.

“She also started going on about if anything happens to her baby it’s our fault because we’re causing stress for her and that this pregnancy is hard already and we made it worse. My dad and my mum’s family have been begging us not to say anything about our pregnancy so that my mum doesn’t stress.

“I don’t want to stress my mum out and have harm come to her baby but at the same time I feel like I should also be allowed to celebrate and share my pregnancy as we thought we couldn’t have anymore children. Would I be the a**hole if I announced our little tater tot coming anyways?”

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  • Ok the 37 year old mum sounds a bit crazy!


  • One your 21 married and a mum of one already, your mum had 9 kids already so she has the spotlight for 9 pregnancies. So if I was you I would announce your pregnancy. Your bundle is just as precious as your mums bub.
    You and your mum had been told you had complications on conceiving again and may never have another bub. Again your mom had the spotlight for 9 pregnancies, your now starting your family with your second baby so it’s SHOULD be your time to shine.

    Congratulations on your extending your family.


  • You announce your pregnancy. Any baby is a miracle baby. You said yours is too, as doctors told you another wasn’t likely. There is no reason you should have to keep it a secret from anyone, people are going to notice soon anyway. The only time you shouldn’t announce something like that is on someone else’s big day. So I say you tell everyone and allow yourself to be able to be happy and excited for your little bundle of joy.


  • This is so unfair wow


  • I don’t understand why she shouldn’t be sharing her news as well.


  • I’m sorry but it’s your birth/pregnancy too, you should be able to announce it the way you want.


  • I think the Mum is being quite selfish, rude and ridiculous and the Father and other Family members should support her but where’s the support for the Daughter?


  • Do whatever you want to do


  • All births are a miracle and to me, your pregnancy should be shouted from the rooftops. Your Mum said she was told she couldn’t have any more because of her age but this will be her 10th child. This is only your second which you were told probably wouldn’t happen. I wish you and your husband all the best and congratulations. By the way, how did your Mother expect you to hide your pregnancy?


  • Do your own thing! Do what you and your partner want to do.. miracle baby? Shes only 37?!?!

    • i don’t think it’s so much with the age but i dare say having 9 babies would put pressure on anyone’s body so it’s probably complications during or after the pregnancy


  • I think if this was your Mum’s 2nd baby and after having you she was told she couldn’t have anymore children, waited all these years and suddenly she found out that she was pregnant then yes i could understand why she’d want her time to shine etc but this is baby number 10 for her!!
    I think you should tell your mum and dad very calmly that you understand this is a special time for them but this is equally as much a special time for you and your family. You’re not going to be quiet about your pregnancy, it’s not like you’ve done anything wrong or anything that you should be ashamed of, and speaking from experience, pregnancies can be very difficult to hide so you’re not going to hide it, you’re going to embrace it and share it with the world.
    Just keep in mind, if you kept your pregnancy quiet, when your mum’s baby actually arrives, if you then come out and say you’re expecting a baby the following month, I feel like your Mum is going to feel like you’re going to steal her limelight again then, taking the focus off her new baby and wanting it for yourself, so while I see that you’re in a no win situation, I think you should hold your head proud and if you want to announce your pregnancy to the world, then you do it!!
    Congratulations btw :-)


  • You need to see a psych to really understand your mother, but it sounds to me like she is a narcissist and you believe her. I think you need to walk away and live your own life away from the manipulation.

    If I happened to get pregnant again, and my husband was retiring, I’d shut my mouth, that day was about him. If my daughter got pregnant, I, personally have already have had three kids, I’d make her pregnancy all about her. That is what mothers are supposed to do. The minute a baby is born, the mother comes second.

    I am sorry you weren’t put first


  • You should definitely be able to celebrate your own baby! If your own mother gets upset by that, that’s on her


  • I think she should go for it! Scream it from the rooftops. Mums on her 10th baby, she’s had her time to shine. No reason why you both can’t enjoy your pregnancies


  • Well I just don’t think your mother is being very motherly. She is being completely selfish about both pregnancies and she has no right to be telling you what and when you can announce your bundle of joy. Go ahead and announce it and enjoy the pregnancy that you have been given to enjoy, it really has nothing to do with your mother anyway.


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