wow…..Mum sounds like shes way over the top and a major attention seeker

Ok the 37 year old mum sounds a bit crazy!

One your 21 married and a mum of one already, your mum had 9 kids already so she has the spotlight for 9 pregnancies. So if I was you I would announce your pregnancy. Your bundle is just as precious as your mums bub.
You and your mum had been told you had complications on conceiving again and may never have another bub. Again your mom had the spotlight for 9 pregnancies, your now starting your family with your second baby so it’s SHOULD be your time to shine.

Congratulations on your extending your family.

You announce your pregnancy. Any baby is a miracle baby. You said yours is too, as doctors told you another wasn’t likely. There is no reason you should have to keep it a secret from anyone, people are going to notice soon anyway. The only time you shouldn’t announce something like that is on someone else’s big day. So I say you tell everyone and allow yourself to be able to be happy and excited for your little bundle of joy.

This is so unfair wow

I don’t understand why she shouldn’t be sharing her news as well.

I’m sorry but it’s your birth/pregnancy too, you should be able to announce it the way you want.

I think the Mum is being quite selfish, rude and ridiculous and the Father and other Family members should support her but where’s the support for the Daughter?

Do whatever you want to do

All births are a miracle and to me, your pregnancy should be shouted from the rooftops. Your Mum said she was told she couldn’t have any more because of her age but this will be her 10th child. This is only your second which you were told probably wouldn’t happen. I wish you and your husband all the best and congratulations. By the way, how did your Mother expect you to hide your pregnancy?

Do your own thing! Do what you and your partner want to do.. miracle baby? Shes only 37?!?!

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  • • bankstownbrats replied
    • 07 Jun 2023 , 10:11 pm

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  i don’t think it’s so much with the age but i dare say having 9 babies would put pressure on anyone’s body so it’s probably complications during or after the pregnancy

I think if this was your Mum’s 2nd baby and after having you she was told she couldn’t have anymore children, waited all these years and suddenly she found out that she was pregnant then yes i could understand why she’d want her time to shine etc but this is baby number 10 for her!!
I think you should tell your mum and dad very calmly that you understand this is a special time for them but this is equally as much a special time for you and your family. You’re not going to be quiet about your pregnancy, it’s not like you’ve done anything wrong or anything that you should be ashamed of, and speaking from experience, pregnancies can be very difficult to hide so you’re not going to hide it, you’re going to embrace it and share it with the world.
Just keep in mind, if you kept your pregnancy quiet, when your mum’s baby actually arrives, if you then come out and say you’re expecting a baby the following month, I feel like your Mum is going to feel like you’re going to steal her limelight again then, taking the focus off her new baby and wanting it for yourself, so while I see that you’re in a no win situation, I think you should hold your head proud and if you want to announce your pregnancy to the world, then you do it!!
Congratulations btw

You need to see a psych to really understand your mother, but it sounds to me like she is a narcissist and you believe her. I think you need to walk away and live your own life away from the manipulation.

If I happened to get pregnant again, and my husband was retiring, I’d shut my mouth, that day was about him. If my daughter got pregnant, I, personally have already have had three kids, I’d make her pregnancy all about her. That is what mothers are supposed to do. The minute a baby is born, the mother comes second.

I am sorry you weren’t put first

You should definitely be able to celebrate your own baby! If your own mother gets upset by that, that’s on her

I think she should go for it! Scream it from the rooftops. Mums on her 10th baby, she’s had her time to shine. No reason why you both can’t enjoy your pregnancies

Well I just don’t think your mother is being very motherly. She is being completely selfish about both pregnancies and she has no right to be telling you what and when you can announce your bundle of joy. Go ahead and announce it and enjoy the pregnancy that you have been given to enjoy, it really has nothing to do with your mother anyway.

Your baby shout it from the treetops

Announce your pregnancy. she’s had 10 goes at this. This is your first. Enjoy it!

Can’t believe the mum is doing this to her daughter

Announce the hell outta it! Your mum is trying to manipulate you. She’s had 9 babies, time to share the spotlight! By the looks of you age gap, and I’m assuming you are the oldest?, she still has some growing up to do! Who knows maybe she just wasn’t mature enough to have a baby when she had her first and is still very much in that teen phase. I wonder how she has been with her other kids? Anyway, every parent deserves to be happy with their pregnancy, miracle or not. So enjoy it and let everyone know you have one on the way! Best of luck to you and congratulations