This seems rather sad. The toddler is still so little.

I think maybe the mum doesn’t want to feed her child anymore and wants to stop but just isn’t sure how. There is alot better ways if this is the case & upsetting the child isn’t the best way to go about it. Hope she can sort it out soon

It is amazing how much is learnt by toddlers by the way their parents behave. From what is being said, there is certainly no good example of manners being shown by the parents. Perhaps showing good manners might be a quicker way for the toddler to learn them herself.

We women are a fickle bunch but the good news for you is that it won’t be long before its all over and you will have to find something new to whinge about

Maybe it’s the Mum’s way of trying to wean her daughter off the breast. It’s not the right way to do it but maybe she doesn’t know any other way.

Not many people are still breast feeding when their child can talk. Maybe Mum is feeling touched out, wants her body back, needs to stop?

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 23 Feb 2024 , 8:50 am

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  I agree, many mums will deny/refuse the breast all together at the age of this child….are we going to suggest that is rude too ?

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    • • mom93821 replied
      • 27 Feb 2024 , 5:33 am

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    I agree that there are more layers to this story.

I’m sure it’s not as simple as stated here. It’s sad and they obviously need some help.

Devastating for this little person!

The fact that the kid is old enough to be able to ask is an issue in itself. Feeding a child that old is just plain weird and there’s no scientific evidence to suggest it’s beneficial.

I feel sad for this child as correct understanding of words and politeness is not understood at this age let alone a full vocabulary. I have a 2 year old and am lucky she has a great range of words and can speak in full sentences although some of her friends can only say up to 50 words and they are over 2. If she doesn’t want to BF just give milk in a bottle, offer food or give a dummy. Don’t patronise a kid due to being tired. Or give the kid the words to say so they can copy ????‍????????

l feel like a lot of the responses here are coming from people who do not know what it is like to have a two year old come and pull your boob out all. the. time. Then climb and rock all over you. It is exhausting, but she is still choosing to do whats best for bub.

Feeding can still give a toddler 30% of nutrients and is an amazing thing (but also annoying at this age). But at this age, she can go without it and it will not harm her. Sounds like they need to have a discussion on what the actual issue is (touching, manners?), and think about:
1. stopping feeding
2. expressing
3. the requirements bub needs (perhaps ‘ta’ is easier but still polite?)

A 2 year old does not need discipline at that age. They need love, care and trust.

A 2 year old will be eating solids so she should still be getting her requirements. But, this requires communication amongst the parents in a calm manner!!

I’m all for teaching manners but under two is still a baby… this makes me sad.

I agree some double standards here when she wants to teach her toddler manners and shouts at the husband.
Lack of sleep may cause tis mum to react more intolerant.
Nothing wrong with teaching manners, but this is something we do accross all contexts and with love and patience in an age appropriate way and by living the example.

I think there must be more to this story and it would be interesting to know both sides.

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  • • RA1234756 replied
    • 22 Feb 2024 , 10:57 am

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  l agree! It seems like we are missing some context.

I can understand wanting to teach your kid manners but this doesn’t seem like the healthiest way to do it.

I’m going against everyone else here, I’m currently 2 and half years breastfeeding my son and I am get him to say please – just teaching them manners and after breastfeeding for so long it’s exhausting and he also pinches and bites etc at 2 yrs old they can understand and learn manners

Some behavioural issues that need addressing with professional help involved.