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Nurturing your inner child can help you to feel happy and content in both your health & wellbeing. Noelene Karlsen looks at the pure, joyous, childlike, abandonment achieved from nurturing your inner child.

Wobbly Legs 

Today as I was looking out my window – I am very lucky to be back in Australia for a short while in a beautiful apartment overlooking the ocean – I became mesmerized by a gorgeous little girl in a white hat and bright pink outfit who was teetering at the top of the stairs willing herself to walk down them to the beach.

Although I was a distance away I could see her little legs going from side to side her hands seeking something to hold on to, yearning for some support to follow her little short term dream.

I looked around for her mum who I saw watching her from a seat about 5 metres away, pregnant and obviously wanting a rest from what I would assume is a very active toddler.

The little girl ran over to her mum a bit unsteady on her feet. Fell over and picked herself up again and then her mum wiped the sand from her hands. She ran back to the top of the stairs looked over at her mum and at each person passing by. Every now and then she would focus back on the task at hand until someone else walked by where she would give her focus away to how that person may affect her, wondering if she needed protection or if they would help her or if they would walk on by. They would all walk on by.

I found myself willing this little one to take the step to freedom.
Yes she might topple and fall. But she would pick herself up again.
I just wanted her to have the self confidence to do it.

Then when she didn’t have the desired self confidence, I felt myself willing the mother to just get up and support her. To help her take her first step and perhaps her 2nd until she built the confidence.

Instead she kept looking for the support that wasn’t coming and as soon as she was so focused as to take the first step on her own her mum got up and started to walk away … the little girl running off to follow her.

I saw myself in that.

My inner child desperately wanting to find her feet with her health and relationships, wanting people walking on by to notice her and perhaps offer a word of encouragement or even just acknowledgement.

While the adult in me doesn’t lend a hand. She just rushes off to the next thing to do, the next country to visit, the next piece of work to do …

So instead of running on the beach, chasing birds, getting dirty, feeling joy and being one with nature, the little girl just gets to follow an adult whose will is driven by very different values. Order in a chaotic world, minimizing the workload (ie dirty clothes means energy spent on cleaning – not my favourite thing!), watching the beach but not becoming one with it.

And where is the joy in that?

Abandonment is the word that comes to me when thinking and what my inner child can teach me. Pure, joyous abandonment.

Not worrying how this will impact or that will impact, but having the self confidence of doing it anyway.

Lately I’ve been embracing  finding  ‘FUN’ in everything.
I’ve been feeling very happy and contented  that through my health & wellbeing I feel very strong in being able to have fun the way I choose to … going out with friends, running each day, playing with “Sam” my border collie and being entertained by my boys(or becoming the entertainment lol).

These are some of the best  reason that life is meant to be fun

September and October  are my favourite times in Melbourne, as we have the Marathon, The Arts Festival, Pop up bars and restaurants everywhere, the garden of unearthly delights, Outdoor Festivals … the place really comes ALIVE.

And I sat in my apartment, quite content to watch the ocean, watch some movies, my fave shows on DVD to make me laugh, connect with a few friends who would venture out to visit me, and I even popped out for dinner sometimes.

Certainly no abandonment there.

My inner child has the strength, skills and knowledge of how to take a step into pure abandonment. And my adult walked away… or in this case stayed at home.

Just like I willed that gorgeous little girl to take what seemed like such a huge step, wobbling on her unsteady legs towards pure abandonment, I will myself to do the same.

I do it in business.
I now need to do it for myself.

Now I just need to get my ‘adult’ on board to support me in strengthening those wobbly legs to take the first step towards one expression of self confidence … pure abandonment as I ran up a large pile of dirt, arms outstretch yelling “I’m queen of the mountain” as Sam looked on with total bewilderment and wondered does she want me to run up there as well….nope I’m just watching her with this one.

Pure, joyous, childlike, abandonment.
There goes my adult … she’s already walking away.

Ching ching cheers

Noelene xoxo

  • Nurture it? I’ve never outgrown it . I’ve never grown up.,who wants to be a grown up? Lol. Not me

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  • Really interesting article! Thanks for sharing this!

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  • Thanks for sharing this interesting article. Good food for thought!

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  • It’s about finding joy in the simplest of things.

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  • Im someone who likes everything to be safe and predictable.
    But at the same time I have all these dreams of things I would love to do but was always scared to. Just over 5 years ago I stepped out and took a flight to NY all by myself. This was huge for me. I was nervous and so worried that I would not be able to find my connecting flight. But I did. I made it to NY and even though I became sick on the flight from LA to NY…it was ok…I managed not to fall in a heap in JFK and I had a wonderful month away and even travelled up into Canada. This was massive for me.
    Im doing it all again in a weeks time and again i feel nervous but excited.

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  • My husband has an inner child…….but he is also a great dad because of it.

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  • So true. As adults it is so easy to get caught up in all the stuff we “need” to get done. I was doing this the other day, running around like a mad woman trying to finish the house work. Then I caught a glimpse of the sad look on my kids faces. .. :-(
    I stopped cleaning, turned the music up really loud & the three of us danced like crazy people all around the house. Let me tell you… my little ones have got some pretty groovy moves. It has been too long since we all laughed that hard.

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  • Being present in the moment is important. It’s becoming increasingly hard with technologies at our fingertips 24/7 though. Being present sometimes needs to be a conscious decision.

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  • hello noelene, we meet again….never get old, there is too much to learn and discover.

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  • Beautiful article, very heart warming

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  • Know what you like and just do it.

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  • Simply living in the moment can be harder than said….sometimes.

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  • a great read, I try to feed my inner child at least daily, it keeps me from aging too quickly

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  • having grand kids is great for nurturing the inner child

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  • This is an interesting article to read, I just wish some of the comments were more interesting to read! Have you nothing more than, “this is a good read” to write – sometimes more than once? Have you never raked leaves with/for your kids just so they can be danced through and kicked around? That is the sory of comment which is interesting to read.

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