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A mother has confessed to making a rude gesture behind her young child’s back, and people were NOT impressed.

On mum recently turned to the internet to reveal how she copes with her daughter’s frustrating behaviour.

The woman, who posted on MumsNet under the username Legbreak, admitted that she sometimes raises her middle finger behind her toddler’s back.

She clarified that the youngster never actually sees her do it and she only ever does it at home, but said her sister thought it was an “appalling” habit.

…to sometimes give toddler DD the finger behind her back?

Legbreak “She definitely doesn’t see and it makes me feel better and is always at home, not out and about etc. My DSis thinks it’s appalling.”

One mum wrote: “I don’t think it’s really acceptable TBH. She’ll eventually catch you (and do it to others).”

Another commented: “It’s a horrible thing to do to anyone, let alone a toddler.”

A third was also disgusted by the action, saying: I think that’s quite horrible… Would you like your toddler doing that behind your back when they’re adults and you’re calling them to ask for something? Guess not.”

Do you think it is OK to flick the bird at your kids behind their back?

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  • Honestly, it’s hard to know exactly what this parent is going through day to day. Kids can be super challenging. I agree that not yelling at the kid is a good thing but I think as a parent you really need to practice staying in control. Easier said than done I know, but I think flipping a kid off, even if they don’t see you, sets an expectation that it’s ok to be rude. Where does that lead to when the kid is a teenager? If the parent has a habit of doing that, what’s to stop them doing it to their kid’s face or saying something obscene to them because they are older now? There has been a lot of times when my kids were smaller that they would lead me to totally losing my control. I’ve had to actively decide that I’m the parent and that I need to be in control. And if I lose my control, I have chosen to leave the room rather than do or say anything that could be harmful to them.

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  • I’ve done it to my boys before because I was so angry and frustrated with them. Mind you I do have my back to them when I’ve done it. I prefer that than yelling at them.

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  • Seriously, there is nothing wrong with this. She needs to get her frustrations out somehow and at least her children are not aware of this. We all have our vices to get our frustrations out, be it talking to friends etc.

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  • I think a lot of you need to get off your moral high horses… no harm was done to the child, there is no abuse here just a mum letting out a little frustration…
    And please like none of you who commented in the negative havn’t swarn or made a negative comment about or to your child under your breath, and if you havn’t then you are Saints and your children are obviously perfect congratulations!!!!!!!

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  • THINK THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH DOING AN UNSEEN ACTION BY THE CHILD. iT IS LIKE LETTING OUT ANGER, FRUSTRATION AND OTHER NEGATIVE RESPONCES TO CHILD’S ACTIONS .i LOVE MY CHILDREN BUT THEY HAVE TESTED ME SORELY IN CHILDHOOD AND NOW AS ADULTS. MY FRIEND AND I GET OUR KIDS STORIES OFF OUR CHEST NOT TO BE REPEATED TO ANYONE. WE END UP LAUGHING AT THEIR AND OUR ANTICS. I BELIEVE OUR CHILDREN ARE OUR BEST TEACHERS AND I KNOW FOR FACT THEY DO SAME TO ME.

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  • Imagine the poor teachers trying to deal with a parent who thinks its okay to act that way with their own child. Poor parenting in my mind.

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  • This is not acceptable as far as i am concerned & it makes me wonder what type of parent you actually are or will be in the future. Kids need to be taught how to behave & you certainly are not doing that (even if you think the child does not see) children see a hell of a lot more than you realise & it is time you started to act like a parent & not an idiot. This is not acceptable by any standards & you are not a good role model for your child. Start teaching manners & respect (however it seems you don’t have either with the way you say you act)

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  • Maybe a one time thing if the toddler did something really bad but otherwise no I don’t think it’s very good if you’re getting into the habit of doing it. Find another way to release the anger.

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  • Oh my. No, I would never do that.

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  • I’m sure it’s done in a moment of frustration / anger… ( who hasnt been there ?) I don’t see a huge issue if it’s behind her back , at home .. occasionally. We all need to release frustrations at times .. No harm done here .. Until the child catches her ! haha

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  • Is this mother an adult, or a child in a adult’s body? She needs to grow up.

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  • Maybe as a one off but continuously seems pretty immature

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  • Oh I wouldn’t. I would be horrified if someone did that to me so I can’t imagine doing that to someone else.

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  • A once off I can understand. If its a habit, then shes taken it too far. Parents always hit a wall of frustration, sounds like mum needs a bit of me time if she isnt coping too well.

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  • I personally think it is a terrible and immature thing to do.

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