A mum diagnosed with cancer faced the agonising choice of terminating her second child or leaving her firstborn without a mother.

Helen Nutter was 14 weeks pregnant and about to set off on a family holiday with husband Matt and son Louie, 3, when they were given the bad news.

The 32-year-old, from Upton, Wirral, was taking antibiotics for a cough but when it became persistent she was sent for tests.

The non-smoker discovered she had small cell lung cancer. Doctors told the couple a termination was Helen’s only option to allow them to give her the chemotherapy she urgently needed, shared Daily Mail.

‘With her being pregnant they didn’t want to offer her chemotherapy until she had a termination or until she was 20 weeks, so that would have been six weeks away,’ said Matt, 35.

‘It was horrendous. We’d been really happy, we had a two-year-old and we were looking forward to having another, but unfortunately we had to make that decision.

‘The doctor that we spoke to was straight to the point. She said you won’t see your pregnancy out if you don’t have a termination.

‘We talked to the other doctors and specialist oncologists and they were all advising the same thing.’

Matt said their little boy Louie was ‘literally her life’ and that she was battling to get more time to spend with him.

He said: ‘Every child needs their mum. I’m his dad and I’m with him but he needs his mum.

Such a heartbreaking decision for them to have to make.

We hope Helen can beat this horrible disease. We are sending her loads of fighting strength.

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  • It’s a terrible decision to have to make. I wish Helen all the best and hope she has a full rcovery and beats this..


  • What a terrible decision to have to make. Hope all is going well with the family now.


  • How utterly heartbreaking. Best wishes to Helen, Matt and Louie


  • I hope she has a good recovery


  • Wishing Helen all the best in a very difficult time.


  • I don’t think I’d ever forgive myself but I’d have the abortion and get well. I really hope she beats it.


  • A horrible decision indeed but when it’s clear that’s either terminating the pregnancy or leaving your firstborn without ta mum, the decision is actually horrible, hard, heartbreaking, but clear.
    My thoughts & prayers go out to this family. Hope the treatment has success.


  • This breaks my heart. I hope she recovers from this horrible disease x


  • What a sad story and what a dreadful choice to have to make. I feel so sad for this mother :(

    • I feel a whole of sadness for this poor mumma too – just unimaginable.


  • very awful for that family. very sad. i don’t know how you would deal with it


  • That’s horrible! No mother should ever have to make that decision :(


  • Such a dreadful decision to make, with no truly right answer.


  • It must have been an horrendous decision to make and devastating for the family. Cancer is such a terrible disease.


  • Poor Helen. A very difficult and hard decision indeed. But the best one she could take.
    Let’s hope the treatment will function.


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