A mum shares her real story of falling pregnant as a teenager.
I was 15 when I fell pregnant with my eldest.
I told my mum by writing a note, sticking the test to it and throwing it on her bed to find later.
I quickly ran to ‘work’ even though I didn’t start for another 8 hours.
She wasn’t happy.
The father was my brothers friend; he was 21 and an alcoholic.
Mum tried to do whatever she could to get rid of the baby. She took me to multiple doctors and planned parenthood centres to try and get them to tell me to abort. But legally they couldn’t and medically it was my decision as I was over 14.
She even suggested I gave the baby to her friends who couldn’t have kids.
I ended up having him and 6 years later, my mum and her grandson have the strongest bond I have ever seen.
I had PND because of guilt and shame but I didn’t seek the help I needed and lied on all the questionaries. I think that because of this, my son prefers my mother over me when it comes to emotional support.
I feel that we are just missing some level of connection that I have with my younger kids.
My son doesn’t see his dad often – 6 times in 6 years to be exact. His dad came to see him at 4,5, and 6 weeks old. After that he denied any relation to him. It wasn’t until last year that he began to show interest again. I agreed to meet up and allow them to have a relationship as I believed he did want to know his son. They’ve seen each other twice since that day and that was 18 months ago.
My son and I met my current partner when he was 18 months old and has known him as dad since then. He knew the concept of a ‘dad’ from daycare, his friend would get picked up by ‘dad’ so he began calling every male in his life by that title.
My partner and I have since had two more children. With his daughter to his ex and our 3 boys, we definitely have our hands full. But if I was to change my decision about having a baby so young, who knows where I’d be? I’m glad my son has a positive male role model in his life. We are happy. Especially because I was getting ready to drop out of school but decided to stay and complete my HSC for my son.
My teen pregnancy story turned out happy…how about yours? Share in the comments below.
Posted by Ambergrace, 11th November 2019