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I’m mum to a 3yr old who has anaphylaxis to Dairy. We are fine and use to taking a lunch box everywhere we go. But I am astounded at in this day and age, with Allergies so prevalent that people still offer kids food. Especially without asking the parent first.
I understand that it is a kind gesture but it just make the little person sad when they can’t have it.

Yesterday my son was doing a dance at the shops (as he does), and the lady at the coffee shop saw him. She thought it was so cute (and it was). But then went up to him with food and said your such a good dancer here you go. A lovely gesture, but ends in me saying he can’t and then him getting very upset.
Please just take two second to check with parents first, I’m lucky my little one said “I’ll have to ask my Mum”. And didn’t just take the food. Not all children will have this restraint.

Sorry rant over


Posted by channiib, 7th August 2014


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  • I know a couple of Mums who always whether their child is allowed the food she has handy before she offers it to any of them, They also write on any invitations that they want to know if there is any allergies at all, to please let them know in advance.

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  • my son has the same issues – but with nuts and sesame (and when he was young, eggs!). Thankfully he has grown out of eggs… We had a few close calls

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  • these days most people do ask parents/carers first before offering children food. But this is a great article. a very good point made! :)

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  • Always check with parents/carers first!

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  • i agree. i actually have had a lot of people ask me first and it surprised me that while i was visiting a friend, her nephew was there, and he is 18 and asked me if my children had allergies because he was going to offer them a biscuit! very intelligent boy! that surprised me that he would even think like that

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  • As they get older it does it easier now miss 12 with allergies tends to say thank you for the food but I have allergies and can not eat it

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  • Our little men don’t have any allergies, thank goodness, but nonetheless with the frequency and different levels of allergies I always ask the parent before offering anything to any child. Common sense really.

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  • Sometimes people just don’t think and are trying to be kind. Sounds like you have taught your boy well and he knows to be aware.

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  • Fair enough too, but thankfully your little guy does check with mum first. I’m sure people mean well, they just don’t think. And that can be dangerous when a child has a life-threatening allergy.

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  • It was a kind gesture but this woman obviously is out of touch. You’ve taught your son well.

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  • I agree and I have also been a big believer you ask the parents first if a child can have some thing and not just give it to the child as there are so many kids out there that can not have a lot of things and can not even eat things if they have been cross contaminated by a food they can not eat

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  • I agree; and even though my kids don’t have allergies etc, I wish strangers wouldn’t offer or give them food without asking me first. It’s a security risk too, when you’re trying to teach them to be aware of dangerous people.

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  • I totally agree – people should ask the parent. I’ve been thankful so far that people have asked me before offering to my two year old (not that she has any allergies). I think it is in general a bad idea to have your child get used to accepting things from strangers!

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  • Nothing worse than offering a child something without consulting with a parent first.

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  • I also ask parents first if i can give their child something as you said allergies are so much more common and so many more children have them that you just dont really know, so i always say its best to ask.

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