I’ve just had another call from Father In Law, this time asking what type and size of bras I should buy Mother In Law. Not a conversation I ever planned on having with my FIL, and I actually gave in and offered to go and do the shopping myself.
For several years we have known that all is not well with Mother in Law. First she started retelling the same stories, then it was weird gifts, I mean, what 8 year old boy doesn’t want a mini alphabet board book for his birthday, and what 5yo girl doesn’t want one of those shiny, one size fits all tops from the sellers in the middle of the shopping centre. Then we progressed to a stage where I wouldn’t leave the kids with her, I was the evil daughter in law for that, but I was worried she’d take my daughter out somewhere and forget all about her! Eventually I was getting regular calls from the alarm company when she couldn’t set or turn off the alarm without setting it off. Finally she messed up the books for their business so badly that FIL had to admit there was a problem. A year later she was so bad she was admitted to a high care facility.
So, how do you comfort your husband when he goes to visit his mother and she thinks he’s someone else and tells him that none of her sons come to visit. I can’t take the children back to her home for another visit, they were too upset last time, so instead we get FIL to pick her up and bring her out, but she doesn’t dress properly and she doesn’t really know the grandkids and last time she upset our 7yo daughter by refusing to close the toilet door in the restaurant!
Basically Alzheimers is the pits.
Posted by beagle, 24th May 2013