My daughter and I lost her dad to cancer 3 years ago, this May. He has been missed, especially at those special occasions, for example – Christmas.
My daughter is 7 and she had asked to go and visit her Daddy’s memorial – his ashes are laid at Christmas time. But before we went there, Miss 7 asked if she could buy Daddy a Christmas Gift as well as flowers. So, off to the shopping centre we went. We found some flowers that she liked and it had a pretty purple butterfly – her favourite colour and her Dad’s.
Then we walked to the local spiritual shop where they sold crystals. Miss 7 carefully chose the crystals – one by one. The shop attendant in the store was taken aback when she told him what the crystals were for and gave her a free heart crystal in a beautiful gesture of kindness and compassion.
A lot of the crystals were purple – amethyst. When we got to the Memorial Park, Miss 7 quickly ran to her Dad’s memorial and got to work, carefully laying out the crystals, the butterfly and flowers on his plaque. It was quite beautiful. I helped her with the way she wanted them laid out and insisted I take a photo for her.
In this case, it was lucky that I did. Because last weekend, when we arrived to visit the Memorial, the crystals and the butterfly were gone. There flowers were missing, but I expected that. Miss 7 was beside herself and decided that she had to find them. We looked at the surrounding plaques and memorials, the little creek that runs through the park and extended our search. I convinced Miss 7 that we should go to the Memorial Park Office and ask them about the missing crystals, in case the Gardener/Caretaker had cleaned them away from my partner’s plaque. The lady in the office was quite sad and helpful – she looked in the back where they sometimes put things taken from memorials to return to the family. They were not there and she did say that they were not the kind of things that would be removed from the plaque. The conclusion she came to, as I had already done, was that someone had taken them.
How could someone do such a heartless thing? Remove something so beautiful from a grave… I am hoping that it was a child who saw some bright shiny stones and thought they would take them home with them. The alternative is too distressing. My daughter was shattered but cheered a little when I said we would go back to the shop to get some replacement crystals.
We did go back to the store yesterday. The lady in there was so kind. My little girl just burst out with “my daddy’s crystals are just, totally gone missing!”. Once I explained, she showed Miss 7 where the crystals were. I showed her the picture of the original crystals and she tried to pick similar shaped stones and gave Miss 7 two complimentary crystals. One to keep at home and one for her daddy.
Then she said something beautiful to my little girl. She said, “Maybe your Daddy took the crystals, so that you know he loved and wanted them.” All I could do was say thank you, thank you, thank you. After that, Miss 7 keeps asking if Daddy will like the replacement crystals too.
For every unthinking, heartless person out there, there is a beautiful person to even it out.
Thank you for reading. Truly, I just needed to vent.
Posted by chezj, 25th March 2014