Like Baby showers , I have never been to one , so never understood the significance. Maybe just say to the bride , this will be your wedding gift. With the dress , use your imagination , no one knows how much you are wearing , so I think use your own judgement and do what is comfortable . If she is your friend , I am sure you can talk to her.

How greedy its only the party before the party, I know its exciting to get married but come on this is greedy i hope you just give her a voucher not buy anythng you cannot afford.

I really dislike that sort of thing and have even turned down invitations to weddings where the bride and groom want the guests to over indulge them – if it was me I wouldn’t go.

If you’re not close to her, then I’d consider either going and taking a nice gift that you can afford, or making an excuse for not going, and sending a gift through the mail. While it’s all very well to plan special “bridal showers” to make the bride feel special, it’s incredibly selfish to expect people attending to spend a fortune if they can’t afford it.

Unfortunately these “bridal showers” are becoming more and more in vogue and some people make them wildly extravagant. I feel all these extra parties that people have are a bit over the top – but that’s just my opinion. It’s wonderful to celebrate but some people seem to try and mimic some of the reality TV stars. I would feel uncomfortable if I got an invitation to a Chanel themed party, but that’s because I feel the quote would make me feel uneasy about what to select to wear etc.

This does seem wildly out of scale with all the kitchen teas/bridal showers I’ve been to – mine was brunch at a nice (but inexpensive) restaurant with half a dozen friends and no presents expected or given. But all my friends had much smaller ones than you’re describing. I’d wear a nice dress and choose an affordable present, even if it’s not on the registry. And if you’re not close, I definitely wouldn’t spend that much.

I didnt even know you had a bridal shower i thought it was a hens night where you went out and just got drunk and had a laugh.
Surely you dont have to supply a gift dont you do that for the actual wedding or is she double dipping ???
I think if you believe your going to feel uncomfortable i would just make a excuse and say you cant make it but hope she has a lovely day/night.