I know I’m not the only mum who feels ‘Mummy Guilt’ for having their child in daycare but sometimes I just need to let my fears out, so here I go. It seems the accepted ‘norm’ to be a part-time working mum with a child in daycare a few days a week. Everyone around me assures me it is good for me and good for my child but what if one day when my children are grown up they suffer unexpected problems from being left in daycare. Problems that researchers haven’t discovered yet about social, emotional or physical damage. What if my child doesn’t actually enjoy it there (as the staff assure me she does) but she has just learnt to put on a brave face ? What if she isn’t actually learning fantastic social skills but is instead learning how to be a bully, or a victim or a sheep who just gives up and follows the crowd ? What if the endless snotty noses, coughs, gastro, hand foot and mouth and slap cheek are not actually strengthening her immune system but instead overworking it and increasing the possibility of an autoimmune disease as an adult ?
I don’t want to sound like an over anxious mum and I’m certainly not complaining about going to work but sometimes I wonder if we are all just kidding ourselves that we are doing what is ‘best’. Sure I enjoy the ‘me’ time at work, it’s nice having some extra money and it’s fantastic being able to eat my lunch slowly and go to the toilet on my own, but at what cost ? I guess only time will tell and until then I’ll just add this worry to my Pandora’s box guilt and hope it never gets opened.
Posted anonymously, 6th October 2014