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I have a 18 year old who seems to have spent a fair amount of time smoking pot. I am not as worried about him as I used to be, he seems to be growing up a good bit more just lately. I also have a 19 year o ld who was very much against drug use, who now tells me he smokes pot as well. He uses it as a crutch, because he has trouble sleeping. I am not interested in kicking either one of them out, as this is one thing I have been told to do by others who supposedly care for me. I won’t do this, as I always want both my kids to have somewhere safe to return to. If anyone could give me any HELPFUL hints, I would be much obliged. Cheers.


Posted by lizianthus, 11th November 2013


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  • One mum I know has a daughter who is an ice addict. Her addiction landed her in prison, she lost her toddler son. The mum was hoping the jail stint would straighten her daughter out. She’s just been released so tine will tell. She had tried everything yo help her daughter. Sometimes you just have to let them go and hope it will run its course

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  • I have a 19 year old daughter who love her drink so I always tell her never drink and drive etc … If your son has trouble sleeping , perhaps suggest him to go to the doctors and remind him there are other solutions in combating insomnia . Drugs and alcohol are addictive so take care .

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  • Are you asking for tips to getting them to quit? Or are you asking for ways for you to cope living with 2 pot smokers? If you want them to quit, you’re probably not going about it the right way. Dr PHIL would call you an enabler. If you want tips on how to cope living with them, you’ll just have to turn a blind eye.

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  • What a difficult situation.good on you for standing by your kids.
    How is everything going now

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  • Good on you for not turning your back and wanting to help them.

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  • good on you for wanting to help them. it is great that your children can be honest with you about this stuff because they need a friend and not an enemy or judgement! i think that any ultimatums will result in them picking the substance over you. peer pressure might be a big factor and also by now, they will be addicted. Try to encourage them to give up and talk them into help. Encourage them into work which will leave little time for smoking. Help them to win this battle. You are their mum and you have to guide them in the right way, not turn your back on them which will possibly make them get into really bad stuff or situations. Good luck

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  • I suppose it depends how often it is happening but I would not kick my child out. I am happy for them to stay until they want to move out. I am sure they will grow out of it.

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  • I’d be talking to a Doctor and getting a professional opinion on how best to handle this, he will be able to send you in the right direction.

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  • keep your kids safe and kick them out………

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  • I agree with you. Kicking them out wouldn’t help,the issue, could put up a distance or barrier which you don’t want. Keep,them close, listen, perhaps counselling. Kicking a habit is hard however when it’s drugs it’s even harder. It sounds as though you are very supportive & that’s what will be needed but remember to also,take time for you, don’t be afraid to,ask for help, perhaps counselling for all, I hope it works out for,the best hun :)

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  • Maybe a trip to your GP with the older one, ask about anything he could get to help him with getting to sleep. As for the younger one I would just be asking why it is he is smoking it. At his age im thinking most of his friends would be smoking it as well. He may stop when he finishes school and starts work. It could also be that it helps him forget his troubles. Sounds like you have a good relationship anyway for them to have come clean about it. Make sure they know you want to help them and just keep talking to them, at least they know they have someone who cares.

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