In past generations and even still to this day in some cultures it took a whole community, tribe or family to raise children, in this day and age we are expected to be strong and cope wit it all on our own.
This morning at about 4am i was lying awake (as I have been for the last month) thinking about who I could call for help! Im not talking the type where I just want some moral support but someone who can be physically here for me and my children. You see my husband works away interstate and my closest family is 1800kms away. I have friends but not close enough that I feel I could call them in desperation at 4am in the morning. In fact I dont think I could even ring my best friend if she was closer. And why do i feel like this? Im not entirely sure. Perhaps its the way I have been bought up, to think asking for help is a form of weakness, perhaps its feeling like I would be a burden on others. Either way I truly believe there needs to be a support network set up so that in those desperate moment, you know the ones where you have had no more than 3hrs sleep a night for the last month, the kids are all sick and so are you, and then one little thing, like a wet bed sets you over the edge, we can call on someone. Even if it is just a kind word at that time in the morning. But my guess is many mothers need more than that.
Wouldn’t it be fantastic if we could call someone around to say look after children while you got an hour rest. Or maybe a place you could drop them so you could have a decent shower or visit the Dr.
I realise I live in a fantasy world, but sometimes (certainly not always) I feel desperate enough to consider walking away. Its usually only a moment and after a coffee and seeing the light of day it usually passes but then the guilt sets in about feeling that way in the first place. I ncant imagine how single mothers cope
Posted by cairnsbliss, 26th May 2013