Ever go through those stages of feeling completely alone?
After my ex partner and I separated, I had our child with me full time. Not once had my son left my side until recently.
His father decided that he wants to be a part of our boys life.
Now we have 50-50 care, 5 nights each.
When my son isn’t here, I just feel alone and empty. I have no other close friends, so nobody to go visit.

It’s all starting to make me feel depressed.

Posted anonymously, 19th August 2015

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  • Would you enjoy working part time the weeks you don’t have your children?
    Maybe you could do some voluntary work? Some schools need volunteers to listen to children reading, cover library books (a friend of mine did that for a few years), join a craft group – there may be people there that do sewing that would love somebody to cut the cotton ends off etc. You can enjoy the company of others at the same time. If discussions are interesting there may be plenty of jokes and laughter. I never thought I would enjoy it and initially I did it just get out of the house. If there is one nearby maybe you may like to checkout a Community Centre. Some have some fantastic groups//”activities” – most of them free or a small fee to cover tea, cofee and biscuits etc.


  • It is tough when there is not much family support isn’t it. Do you have any local areas where you can join a support group such a church or community centre etc… It allows you to talk to other people so you wont feel so isolated . It will work out for you soon , don’t give up .


  • I agree with these posts make sure you seek help and take time out for your self its a hard transition and its lonely being a single mum but finding a creative out let such as a community class or even volunteer in that time could help too fill the time and help it pass quicker.


  • ,seek out some support from a counsellor if you can, these times can be very tough!


  • you have to re-think your life and give yourself time to adjust. Try to be positive and make the most of the days that you have him and enjoy the days that you don’t. I don’t want to sound selfish or rude but you can’t change the fact that you don’t have him those days so instead of being upset, go out and get a job, hobby, meet new people etc. Give your son’s room a makeover and make him a special present to come home to. Try to do things that will better your situation.


  • Maybe you could enrol in some kind off course or check out your local community centre and find yourself a intrest of some sort, They sometimes have things that are good to do from scrap booking to cooking classes, sewing etc. And the best bit is if its your week with your kid you should be able to skip it if it is a hobby based course. . Or join a local gym just to get you out of the house. Another idea is to Google “How to make friends In *****(area you live) If is near a resonable sized town or city there might be a few options of thiings you can join some of them are about making friends Not dating.


  • Maybe seek out some support from a counsellor – they can be helpful.


  • What a difficult situation.
    Write a list of things you want to do in those times, include something for yourself, like a bath, or a book. Check out your local council and see if there are groups you can join,


  • It must be terrible indeed. What a big change in your life. But you have to try to live happily the days without your child. Keep your mind occupied, find some new hobbies, think about yourself. Working on yourself will improve the relationship with your child too! :-)


  • Have you thought about joining a group or taking up an interest or maybe even study? It may give you the opportunity to gain some new skills and make some new friendships too.


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