I just needed to get this off my chest … so thought no better place than on the Mouths of Mums webpage … we have an upcoming event early May, and we bought our children a “treat” each… to celebrate this day. However there was 1 rule to ensure they received their “treat” … it was based on “good behaviour”.

Anyway as the weeks are leading up, we’ve given him a few chances (more than he should have), anyway, this week I clearly explained that i’d give him one more chance to show us his “good behaviour” … but after hours, he forgot and had one of his tantrums. I’ve now told him that he will not be able to receive his “treat” as he had been given chances and continues to misbehave and not listen/follow instructions when he is asked by us (his parents).

I feel terrible, as he has been looking forward to receiving this special treat … but I feel I need to teach him a lesson and that he can’t always be given “one more chance” … He is shattered. and I am torn … I really would love to give him his treat, but he just does not seem to understand that if he continues to ignore our requests, misbehave or sulk he suffers the consequences.

I really don’t want to provide him with a “treat” after his behaviour as he will think it’s ok he will always get whatever whether he behaves or not … I guess the part I am finding hard to deal with, is that it is for a “celebration” and maybe I should not have made the basis of getting the treat on his behaviour.

But i can’t back out now =(

Posted by dreamer1495, 23rd April 2013

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  • I have had to take the same hardline with treats and misbehaviour. It’s not enjoyable, but I do find it necessary


  • stick to ur word honey everytime xx


  • He has to learn that life doesn’t always give second or third chances :(


  • Its best to stick to your word
    when kids realise you dont stick to what you say they will play you on it
    test you and know you will give in
    be strong its for the best in the long run


  • top story


  • I can understand what you are going through. I would try and be strong and not give the treat. As much as it is really upsetting as we love to make our children smile.


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