Friday we laid my mother to rest - Real Mum story on MoM

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Friday was a hard day for my family as we laid my Mother to rest and just knowing we will not see or her or hear or hug or kiss her again hurts my heart but the day also came with a lot of anger for so called relatives…..Mum’s younger Sister when I rang her to let her know about Mum spat venom at me as she did not agree with Mum’s wishes…..well lady they were Mum’s wishes and I am sure when your time comes you would like your wishes followed…but she did not even attend the funeral…than there is my older sibling whom has not been near Mum for many years or even rang her but could ring and want to know when they could come and clean the house out…..well my Daughter owns every thing in the house and than he made a nasty call to my daughter when he found out the house was left to her…whom has lived and looked after my Mum for 13 years that she has better strap her self in for the biggest legal fight ever….He is wanting the whole house and not even a portion but Mum had a will and did what she did for her own reasons…where I was to get half the house and I told Mum I did not want it that my Daughter had earned it…she also left her car to my Son who made her sell it so she could enjoy the money on her self while she was alive as he told her all her ever needed from her was her love.
So Tuesday we go to solicitor and yes he had already rang and a $2000 retainer needed to be paid….Monday we get a call as I pre paid Mum’s funeral over 2 years ago that we had just over $3700 to find by the Thursday or they would not open the ground for Mum on the Friday….this is council. Thursday with all the kids chipping in we go and pay the money as well as pick and put a deposit on Mum’s headstone…Than i had the minister to pay on the day…..my Sibling’s contribution to any of this is nil My Son payed $165 for the flowers that was put on Mum and my sibling cared so much he could not even show up to his own Mother’s funeral…..well it does not take a brain surgeon to work out just what my Mother really meant to him and that was only what she was worth for his financial gain.
My Family are truely missing her and her love but the other could not give a crap and his heart is not hurting just his greed is running rapid

Posted by arcticwynta, 10th August 2014

8 Comments

- - mom81879 said
  - 06 Sep 2015
    7:44 pm
There must be something wrong with me my mum is still alive but is in get 80s so I think about the time she dies……..and I’m not too fussed. I don’t think I will be devastated like I should be. I hope my kids dont feel the same way about me

- - mrsgreen12 said
  - 21 Aug 2014
    11:45 am
Im so so sorry for your loss. Grief does horrible things to people and their ways. My Dad passes in January and its been very tough. My sister and I didnt see eye to eye on things either. Try not to be bitter. Your mum wouldnt want that. I hope things work out

- - Kelly said
  - 11 Aug 2014
    9:13 pm
How horrible for you and your family.
When my mum passed between her husband and myself we were left 50% each then my 50% had to be shared 5 ways with my bothers and sisters, I hadn’t heard from my brother in about 2 years but funnily enough I heard from him nearly everyday after we laid mum to rest asking if I had sorted the paperwork out yet as he wanted his money, mad me so angry.
Surprising the bad money brings out in people.
- hopefullyheidi replied
  
  12 Aug 2014 , 7:38 pm
  It is terrible what money can bring out in some people.
  - arcticwynta replied
    
    13 Aug 2014 , 7:23 pm
    
    if we have to we will remortgage our house to fight him if he can get that far as he will not be getting a thing from the house. He did not care when Mum was alive and showed he did not care be not even turning up even for a short time to her funeral…he is pure evil and I have not seen him in almost 30 years but was at Mum’s often and stayed or weeks so him out of my life will not affect me at all. Money is what he is all about but my family…me my Hubby kids grandkids it was about love and spending time with her and going out as a family always with Mum
- - BellaB said
  - 10 Aug 2014
    10:57 pm
Well, I have to say that I’ve been estranged from my parents for some time. And as such, if they leave me nothing I would understand. Maybe ask for baby photos of me, to pass on to my kids.
- arcticwynta replied
  
  11 Aug 2014 , 8:31 pm
  he has already be offered through legal all of this and I had all his photo’s bagged for him the same night he spoke to my Daughter.
- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 10 Aug 2014
    10:49 pm
I’m very sorry to hear that some meme bets of your family are further adding to your heartache and stress in this very trying time for you. My family members had a falling out when my grandfather died as well. It was terrible, it was all over money.