I moved away from my mum and family 4 years ago for my husbands work and we settled in a lovely area with a great school for the kids we even connected with another family in the same situation that had moved 12 mths before us.
Being a bit of a control freak with a habit of mothering I tended to do this for my friend who was missing her mum a lot and over time I have created a situation for myself. I have now become her mum substitute, I am always the first one she calls on when there is an issue or her kids need looking after or collected from here or there. Not such a big deal any friend would do the same, but over time the relationship has altered in that I am no longer asked to catch up in holidays for fun activities with our kids or weekend get togethers. Those fun activities are now for the other “friends” and I’m just there for the issues and dramas. I am caught between wanting to help because I miss my friend or saying no and being alone. I have done the wrong thing in putting myself in this situation and not building more friendships. I have other friends but they all see us as a package deal and now I don’t know how to get myself out of this mess.
Posted by stay at home mum, 16th July 2013