With all the media attention to gender selection recently, I was amazed, and horrified, to find out someone I know has done this.
This person was the proverbial “friend of a friend”, about whom I had heard quite a bit.
My friend had raved about this person, how kind, understanding, witty and intelligent she was.
I must admit when I first met her, she seemed to live up to this reputation.
We got along quite well, both having favourite authors in common, so something to talk about!
About a week ago, I mentioned an article I had read about people aborting children based on sex.
Quite casually, she told me she had aborted a boy, as she wanted a girl.
To say I was stunned would be an understatement.
Here was a person, a potential friend, suddenly turned alien. What could I say to her?
I could not even look at her without feeling an incredible growing anger.
Without a word, I stood up and left, shaking and upset.
Only now am I thinking of all the things I would have liked to say to her.
The friend that introduced us has asked me what happened, and is not happy with the way I reacted.
Nowdays we all try to be supportive of other peoples lifestyles and choices, even if they differ from our own, but this, I am sorry, I just cannot condone it. I cannot find it in me to support her in any way, shape or form.
I loathe abortion, but I can understand why some women choose this path. I will, and have, supported friends through this process, but never, ever for such an appallingly selfish reason.
Should I have been supportive? Or is it truly as disgusting a choice as it seems to me?
Posted by katelt, 24th June 2013